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Just Said Yes August 2020

Definition of a jack and Jill shower

Brittany, on June 17, 2019 at 9:52 PM

We live in NEW ENGLAND and jack and jills are pretty popular around here. I do not want a bridal shower. I think it’s rude to ask for gifts you could buy yourself and to top that off we already own a home and have everything we need. We’re thinking of having it at a brewery and price the tickets at $25 and that would include food and a certain keg and raffles. It’ll also be like a huge festival of celebrating us getting married! In my opinion since we don’t want gifts we’re looking at the ticket money as “their gift”. We’re also using our jack and Jill as an opportunity to invite people whom we can’t invite to the wedding. Such as clients in close to and other people we love talking and seeing but don’t see enough to be able to invite to the big day.

What is you definition of a jack jack and Jill??

No NEGATIVE CRAP such as it’s tacky. Bc if you think asking for gifts that are $100+ isn’t tacky then I don’t want your opinion. All I’m asking is people to dance and celebrate us and have a great time for $25 which in the end we’ll get maybe $10 from each ticket.

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Master August 2019
CourtneyBrittain · on June 18, 2019 at 1:58 AM
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I will keep my own opinion, but please do remember that we are to treat everyone on these forums with respect and kindness. That goes to everyone. I had only heard of Jack & Jill showers as Bride & Groom, but I am from the Mid-West, so that could be why I haven't heard of it in the sense you are describing.
I think that if you think your crowd will enjoy it, go for it.
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Cheryl · on June 18, 2019 at 2:04 AM
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So basically, you just want everyone to agree with you? Cool. Your idea of a "Jack and Jill" is not what most people think is a Jack and Jill. Jack and Jill typically just means co-ed shower or engagement party. The intent can be for it to replace a shower, but it certainly doesn't have to. What you are describing is more of an engagement party where you charge a cover charge. Regardless of what you want to call it, if it's something that has been done in your social circle who cares what it's called? If people don't want to come, they won't. I can tell you that the reason people are so upset with you is because of how defensive and harsh you are in your approach. You as also come across as very judgmental. Maybe soften your approach and try to be a bit more collaborative. It may help you in your others relationships IRL as well.

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Margaret · on June 18, 2019 at 5:43 AM
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Oh my gosh. You are wonderful. I was thinking the same things!