Declined rsvp but no name?

I would think unless you are doing assigned seating it does not matter. The daunting task would be once you have all RSVP's in you can back track and compare to the guest list and then reach out to see who sent it. If people can sit where they want and all you need is the guest count.

View Quoted Comment The guest count is my concern. But thank you, we don't have assigned seating so maybe it isn't a big deal. I just want to have the proper guest count for the caterers.

Yeah I’d wait until the 15th and see who you haven’t gotten a response from. Then reach out to those people. One of them will be like oh sent that!

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Ahhhh ok. I would think that you just need numbers for the venue. I think once you get all RSVP's then you just have to count who is coming to let the venue know.

I would wait until the deadline, and then use process of elimination to determine who sent the RSVP. If there's multiple people you haven't heard from, reach out to all of them. One of them will likely reply with something along the lines of, "I thought I already sent my RSVP", or you'll get everyone's replies at that time.

Wait till you get the rest of your replies back and then get in touch with anyone whosecnames don't correspond to your list.

Maybe the postmark from the city/state will narrow it down?

For other brides, it is standard to either put names on each RSVP, showing exactly who is invited, or to put a number on a top corner or the back, and assign numbers to each family / person getting an invitation. Some weddings, as many as 20 may not do it. Leaving you particularly stuck if you have meal choices, not buffet. Because even if you don't put up a seating chart, you would usually still put out place cards for people to take and put in front of where they are sitting. And these you usually code with the meal chosen, for servers.

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately it did not.

View Quoted Comment I had no idea. I've been planning this wedding on my own, with not much input or advice from anyone who is married. I have been trying to figure it out as I go really.

View Quoted Comment Who would think, people would forget to put their names on? Their meal tickets, essentially? Wait til you get a gift with a 2 page letter in it, and you cannot figure out who sent it. And when someone finally asks about this gift they have not been thanked for, and you show them, no name, they say, but don't you know my handwriting, from all those notes we sent each other in school? Or one has no names, just meals, 8 meals, and you did not invite more than 3 in any household? So you check by number, get the name. Call, and they say, us, and you know Maggie met a guy and they moved in with us . So, 5. And my husband always puts 2 meals for him and any other guy, because they don't serve enough at these things, and guys like to eat. that is 3 more. ... So they want 5 add ons at $100 a plate? Really?🙂There are so many things , real things, to know about. Add on bizarro people, and it is very hard unless someone advises you.

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I'm sorry, they did WHAT?! Added 2 meals per man because they "don't serve enough" at weddings?! I hope you told them no and they can take themselves to the drive thru if they need to eat more than one meal at dinner. Jeeze louise I woulda lost it, lol.

View Quoted Comment My hubby tells it as the first and last time he ever saw me speechless on the phone...

This just happened to me with not one but two RSVPs that are both declines with postmarks from Cleveland, which tells me it’s probably someone on my FH’s dad’s side of the family (his parents are divorced, both remarried, dad’s is more blended), but no names on either the cards or the envelopes. We weren’t expecting most of them to come, anyway, though, so I’m going to follow the advice that many have given here and not worry about it much.