Day Of Transportation

Would the BM or GM have to go earlier than their SOs to the ceremony?

I am
not offering transport but most of the BP is not staying in a hotel.

I have the same size party, and the same issue - the quote I got for a hired car was over $300 for 3 hours, so we'd literally pay $300 for a single trip. Oof. My girls plus my mom and FH's mom are getting ready at a hotel about 15 minutes from the venue, and FH, his guys, and the dads are getting ready at our house. The girl's boyfriends won't be with us because we'll be spending a bunch of time getting dressed, having hair and makeup done, etc, plus we'll be getting to the venue super early for pictures. I guess some significant others might hang out with the guys, but I expect they won't want to waste a few hours standing around. My thought is to do a nice uber (or two) for the girls, and ubers/lyfts for the guys and whoever's at our house. I'd personally like to have a nicer car drop me off, but I know FH doesn't really care too much. Could you offer up paying for ubers (maybe just not the super nice one) for significant others?

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Yes, the bridal party would arrive earlier.

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I would just provide for the BM & GM! Then they can drive home with their SOs if one of them drives or they can uber back together.

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That's not a bad idea - it's funny you say that - my FH has actually suggested that he would prefer to get ready at our house and just meet us up there.

We haven't discussed what the deal is with the parents yet - his dad/ stepmom, mom, and my mom...i have no idea what to even say to them..should I offer to have them get ready with us? that sounds little tight - I kinda would just want my mom there and my ladies to be honest. I'm close with all of them but I'm just not sure what the appropriate etiquette is.

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That's what I thought too. i've been on both ends, my FH has a gm and I was a guest - he had to do all this stuff and I went along and was bored and awkward. I would have preferred to just show up with all the other guests.

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I've been on both ends too! When my husband is a GM and I'm not in the wedding party, I usually just find other guests to hangout with before at the hotel or something but I'll always drive separate since the BM and GM usually go early.

Yes I think the uber idea is a good idea. You can suggest that all the bf/gf's share an uber to the ceremony later in the day, since they won't need to be there at the same time as your bridal party. They might rather drive in order to have a ride home, or they might want to take the uber so that they can leave the car behind! I'm sure the SO of your BP can figure it out for themselves

View Quoted Comment FH's sister is a bridesmaid, so it made sense for me to include his mom too, but I think my dad and stepmom will probably hang with the guys. We also got the biggest suite the hotel had for my mom to stay in, partly as a thank you to her and partly so we'd have plenty of space to get ready - they discounted the rate and it ended up being about the normal rate for a standard room. I have no idea what the right etiquette is, but I'd say to do whatever's comfortable for you and your FH.

If the reception and ceremony are in the same place, you don't have to provide transportation. I actually hitched a ride with my MOH to the venue from the hotel lol. The only time you really have to provide transportation is if the bridal party needs to travel between the ceremony space and reception space.

I think Uber XL would be a good option in your situation.