Day-of tips?!

Hi, date-twin!

I'm not sure stress-free is possible, unless you can outsource every decision and are ok with that.

However, remember to do things you like to do, don't work on the wedding EVERY hour, and insist on boundaries.

I'm stuck between feeling very behind, and very on top of things, depending on my mood or how decisions are going.

Hang in there!

Awesome - congrats!! We are so close! Very true that it won’t be all stress free. Still deciding what exactly to outsource - but have an idea. I also trust all of our vendors to set up well which helps a lot
i completely know what you mean with those feelings!! Thank you!

Great topic and yay! I plan to give my FFIL the tip envelopes to hand out. He was an accountant before he retired so it's fitting. He's responsible and dependable. We'll try to make all final payments before the big day. I dunno if you're doing a first look or not but I've heard it's important to have some alone time before or during the ceremony with your groom.

I meant reception*

View Quoted Comment We did this. I didn't have to worry about the money on the wedding day. We also had my FIL take the card box and lock it in his car. We had a first look but honestly we saw each other before it anyway lol. We took most of our photos before the ceremony, so we had lots of time together. My biggest piece of advice is DON'T RUSH. Don't worry about every little moment and make sure you look at your shot list and put everything you want on there. Enjoy yourself. There's no need to stress about every detail. My second piece of advice is be explicit. Give your important people a schedule. Do not assume that telling them is enough lol. Honestly, I even texted people a schedule and it wasn't enough. Print it out and staple it to their foreheads.

Things will go wrong. I really could go on and on about what went wrong on my day, lol. One of our apps was incorrect, our salad was gritty af, our cake was supposed to have buttercream but they used whipped cream, etc. At the end of the day, we all had a great time!!

One of my girlfriends gave her MOH her cell phone with a list of contacts and instructions. Bride had a spa appointment in the morning and didn't want to be bothered by pointless questions. And MOH didn't mind because she's a mom to 3 boys so she's used to wrangling people.

I would also recommend packing your planning binder/notebook/folder with a copy of all of your contracts and notes. You never know what's going to come up with a vendor.