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Super April 2021

Day of Photo Snafu - What Would You Do?

Tiger Bride, on April 19, 2021 at 9:21 AM Posted in Planning 0 10

Hey y'all! We got back from our honeymoon last night so I'm starting to wind down and process something that happened.

On the morning of our wedding, my DH got involved in a fender bender. He was fine, the car was (mostly) fine, but it took a couple hours out of his schedule so there are (I'm told - we haven't gotten photos back) no pictures of him getting ready...at all. None by himself, none with his dad, none with the GMs, etc. I'm still processing how I feel about this. I know these photos are fairly low priority in the grand scheme of things, but there were still memories we wanted from that day.

We can't do anything about the candids from the groomsmen's getting ready house, but we considered doing a mini session to get some pics of my DH buttoning his sleeves, his dad pinning the boutonniere, etc. We both feel really torn because it won't recapture the emotion of the day, but these are pictures we would like to have.

I feel like we got a decent amount of pictures of me and my girls getting ready, but there were portrait shots of me that I know we didn't get because we were rushed. And there was a location I'd wanted to get pictures at, but it was too far away to get to on the day. So if we were to do this, we could always go out there too, and have some portraits done in a more relaxed environment. We live far away from where we got married, but it's where we vacation (almost) every year so we'd do it in conjunction with that.

The cost isn't a concern, I'm moreover just wondering if it's a silly idea/grasping at straws to try to fix something that can't be fixed. Photos are/were really important to me, and I'm sad we missed so much.

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Latest activity by Dabblinggadwall, on April 22, 2021 at 1:12 PM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Our photographer offered us a free 2nd session because he felt like he didn't get enough posed photos of just the two of us. We thought about it and ultimately came to the conclusion that we wanted wedding photos because that was the day we got married. We didn't really care to have staged photos because, even if they came out lovely, we would know they weren't from our wedding day, so they wouldn't be as special. The decision is ultimately yours, but that's the process we took.
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  • Ava
    VIP May 2022
    Ava ·
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    I feel exactly the same.
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    Tiger Bride ·
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    Thank you for the insight! That's what's been holding me back...the emotion of the day won't be there. The moment really has passed, and that's what hurts.

    I just don't know if that's worth never having those photos to look back at - my FIL specifically wanted a picture of him pinning the boutonniere, since he has a photo like that with his own father. 35 years out from our own wedding, will it matter that the photos weren't on the day, or will we be happy we have them at all? That's what I don't know.

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  • Victoria
    Devoted June 2020
    Victoria ·
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    I think you should absolutely go for it- because you can still have an awesome and fun day. It won’t be the same emotion- but it’ll still be very memorable! Take the pictures, take the trip, and have a blast!


    Maybe get a picture of your husband by the fixed up car too lol
    Be sure to write up a list of the shots you want before hand Smiley smile
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  • Ava
    VIP May 2022
    Ava ·
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    Could you create another special evening with your families? Maybe a formal dinner? Or you could host a formal Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner (your first holiday as a married couple). Or maybe even do a one year vow renewal with your families in the same spot you were married? I know the pictures won’t hold the memories of your wedding, but at least then they will still hold memories of another important event.
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  • Ariel
    Devoted October 2021
    Ariel ·
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    Personally I wouldn’t try recreate the moments that we missed. I have the same POV as Hannah.
    However it’s a personal decision. If it were me, I would just plan for another special occasion photo shoot. Maybe for my first anniversary or another special date for us.
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  • Laura
    Devoted July 2020
    Laura ·
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    I totally understand where you are coming from. My grandfather wasn't able to attend my wedding because he had been diagnosed with Leukemia and wasn't feeling well after his treatment. Since my family is only 6 people, it would have been easy for them to get dressed up and have "wedding photos" another time. However, the more we thought about it, the more we realized it wouldn't feel right. I would always remember that those photos were taken months after the wedding and it would feel inauthentic no matter what. It's sad that he is such a big part of my life and he couldn't make it, but that's the way it went.


    It's ultimately your decision, but that was just my experience. And I'm glad everyone was okay from the fender bender!
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    Jessa ·
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    I would ask your father in law why that photo is so special to him. I would guess its because it shows a special memory of his wedding day. A re-created photo would not be. Everyone is different, so if in the end you decide this is what you want to do. Go for it. Especially since money is not an issue. Actually, if money truly isn't an issue. You could have the photos taken and then decide if you want to include them in your wedding album. Personally, I think they will feel very different compared to how pictures of your actual wedding day feel.

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  • Michelle
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    Michelle ·
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    I agree with this. Have another formal event you can celebrate and turn into a tradition and have that documented on film.

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    Savvy April 2022
    Dabblinggadwall ·
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    I don't think it's weird *at all*. You missed some of the photos you wanted. You're not recreating the proposal lol, there are a couple of staged moments you missed due to something really unfortunate. Why let that car accident ruin anything further?

    I mean, the WORST that happens if you do it is that you get the photos back and go, oh wow, this was silly lol, throw these out. The worst that happens if you don't do it is you think about that car accident and feel regret literally forever.

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