Day of nerves

Honestly are you excited about marrying FH? I am I have anxiety that's why I will be looking straight in his eyes! So try some breathing treatments before you get up there and hold on to him for support. Hope this helps

I'm super excited about marrying him, I'm just s nervous to have all eyes on me!

I think it is acceptable to have a cocktail (maybe just one) before you go up there....enough to calm your nerves but not impair you lol. And I agree with @Heather, keep your eyes locked on your FH! It will help you to block out everyone else in the room

Oh hun, hugs for you! If your anxiety is so bad you're throwing up or considering drinking to calm yourself, you really should seek out some support from a professional. A doctor or therapist really should know you're experiencing that much stress and unhappiness as a result of this anxiety, they will be able to offer you several options to help you. I deal with anxiety too and you have my sympathy, no one should have to feel that scared or ill, and there is nothing wrong with getting help to cope with anxiety. I very strongly recommend working with a pro to practice mindfulness exercises and mediation.

Your officiant will also have ideas to help you be able to enjoy your ceremony - is there a way to keep your aisle short so you aren't walking down a long aisle with eyes on you? You could also walk in near to your BMs rather than leaving a long gap so you don't feel like you're the only focus of attention. You could make sure you don't have to say much (using just the "I do" version of vows rather than reading your own or repeating the whole vows). And you can keep the ceremony short so you're not standing up there for too long.

DH and I literally cracked jokes with each other the entire ceremony. I just looked at him and no one else. I talked with him and laughed with him and no one else was there.

My FH and I were BOTH uncomfortable with how many eyes would be on us for the ceremony, and we wanted to be able to focus on each other and not on our nerves. So we made a drastic decision. We're each only inviting 30 of our closest friends and family to the ceremony, and we'll have the full reception with the larger crowd afterwards. It has taken so much of the stress away, and I am so proud that this was a decision FH and I made together!

I was the same way but honestly I didn't even notice. I was looking at DH the entire time. We also did a first touch which helped calm my nerves. Some people do a first look to help calm but he is a traditionalist and didn't want to see me before I walked down the aisle.

I am also planning on using aromatherapy the day of. I'm not a big proponent of essential oils EXCEPT when it comes to basics like concentration and stress relief, but I brought them to my friend's wedding in October (along with an arm slinky and fidget toys). She thanked me afterwards, and said that if it weren't for the slinky and the aromatherapy, she wouldn't have made it through.

When I wasn't able to cope with my stress very well I went to my doctor and got put on a low dose of anxiety meds a few years ago. I am so thankful I did because I'm not sure I could handle wedding planning without it. Maybe talk to your doctor about it. I tried yoga, and breathing exercises before I got put on meds and that didn't work for me, but hopefully it will for you! Hugs for you dear!