Day of Coordinator Question

Has your coordinator said that she will not handle setting up signage/decor/etc as part of your package? If so, you could ask if those services are available as an add-on (where you pay an additional fee and she'll do them), or if she doesn't typically handle those at all. When I was looking for a day of coordinator, many of them had setup and tear down services available for an extra fee.

I had a partial planner not day of coordinator, but most planners include decor set up and gathering of wedding personal items at end of day. However, there are activities that should be handled by the venue, and not a coordinator. My planner's contract included detailed fees for physically setting up chairs, taking out garbage, last minute gopher runs, etc. Have a meeting with your coordinator and go over set up/ clean up services in detail.

At this point it doesn't matter if you think it's normal/not normal or what a coordinator should do. All that matters is what's in the contract, and it's a good thing it's clearly written so you know what to expect. I would definitely do whatever you need to do so as to not delegate set up and cleanup tasks to your loved ones. Those are the things that can really tarnish the whole experience of the day.

Speak with each of your vendors to learn what you plan to do about setup/clean up and see what will be leftover. Then decide if you and your spouse could handle it (if it's just a few things), or talk to your coordinator about hiring extra help.