Day of coordinator, a waste of money?

That's not bad. About what I was originally quoted, but ended up getting a price break because I was about to go with someone else.

The bridal parties only job is to show up.in the dress and be by your side during the wedding. Not decorate, not be in charge of something. Hire someone to take care of these details.

I hired one .. because my bridal party will be getting ready .. and we are only allowed to come in 3 hours before event

$700 is an AMAZING price. DOCs are worth their weight in gold, if they are good. Look up reviews for this person and book immediately.

Nooo!!!! This is so important! YOUR BRIDAL PARTY IS NOT IN CHARGE OF THIS AND NEITHER IS YOUR FAMILY! Don’t let them think this is a good idea because its a horrible idea! I was apart of an awful wedding a few years ago, I paid for the decorations (long story) and anyways on the day of the rehearsal the only person there to decorate was the bride and myself - heres the kicker, she LEFT me alone to decorate for hours while she went to take a shower! Then when all the the rehearsal guest started showing up (no bride and groom in sight) they started helping me. Finally when they got there (forgot to add that her mom
wasn’t there either - she was “cooking the food”) she wasn’t even dressed up and all the guest were! She had wet hair and gym clothes on! Then her mom came rolling in with pizza (yeah, she was so busy cooking) no drinks (it was (110 degrees) no plates, and no napkins - oh and no place to sit! After eating the bride decided to just relax while she and her groom (her parents too) expected everyone there to decorate! We stayed until midnight while they did nothing to help! It was awful! The day of was just as bad, we had to finish everything we didn’t get done the night before, and then mt mother, fiance, and mutual friend cleaned the venue! We only left the lights (it was a barn) which she was pissed about the next day and called me and my fiance bitching that we didn’t take the lights down - NEVER GOT A THANK YOU EITHER -if I could rewind, I would have never helped her because the day after the wedding, she told me I ruined everything and we haven’t spoken since. All of the other people who helped felt the same way and it was so hurtful to everyone! I also did so much leading up to the wedding and still never recieved a thank you, like the bridal shower that she kept asking about and nobody else was going to plan (heres a tip, don’t ask people you barely even know to be your bm!) so I took care of that too. Needless to say it was awful and she pissed off every single person there that helped except for her parents and sister! Everyone else has barely spoken to her since then so she got what she deserved. My point is, don’t do this to your friends and family! On the day of your weddng you need to eat, get dressed up, and take cute pictures! Not having them doing your dirty work! $700 is a steal for a coordinater! Take it!

Also had this happen with my fiances sisters wedding - just not anything like the above incident! She just had the family and bridal party helping all day decorate and then clean up too, so we didn’t get to enjoy the wedding at all. For my wedding, I already have a planner and NOBODY in my family or bridal party will be helping do anything planning wise! Thats what the planners are for! I just want it to be fun and not stress about how that part goes! Sorry for the long post, but I always tell that story because it is so upsetting that I no longer speak to a friend I have known since birth, becausee she decided to have a wedding that ruined our friendship, when all I did was help. I think it all came down to the fact that she was embarrassed that her parents wouldn’t help, she didn’t want a wedding to begin with (she is very shy and would have been happy with a court house wedding - but her groom insisted on a wedding), and then she was embarrassed by being totally unprepared and rushed into a situation with this guy. Its so sad to me and if I could go back, I would have not even helped her at all.

You absolutely should consider hiring a coordinator. Do not ask or expect family members to work on your wedding day. If there’s one thing that drives me nuts, it’s hearing friends asking their family members to cook or clean or put tables together for them.

Save them the stress and trouble and budget for a wedding coordinator, either a DOC or a MOC. I booked mine the moment I signed my contract for my venue, since she is a preferred vendor. It was the best decision I made.

A lot of people will tell you to get a DOC and if you honestly think you'll need the extra help go for it!

For the record, it’s not about needing extra help. It’s about not needing to worry about the extra moving parts throughout the day and to have someone who can give you professional advice about your seating chart or organize your day-of-timeline. Things like that are much more frustrating than you’d expect them to be at the end.

It really depends on the size of the wedding. I'm pretty much doing every single thig myself as early as possible and hoping my mom will be there for any last second emergencies but my wedding will be around 150 people. If you are doing 200+ it would be too much prep to do alone. But it helps to do anything you possibly can as early as you possibly can to avoid forgetting about stuff or massive wedding day stress.

Definitely hire one! $700 is a steal and they are worth their weight in gold. My family didn't think I should get one either but I booked her and paid for one and I'm so glad I did.

Mine costs 1,500 for "month of" coordination. I can't imagine not having one...For me, 1,500 is worth Not worrying and being able to actually enjoy my own wedding. All the things you've put so much effort into and spent so much money and energy on could easily face plant and come to a butt grinding crash.. so i am hiring someone to make sure they dont

I hired one! After being in a Bridal party that had to set up a wedding and how stressful that was SO WORTH IT!

I'm paying $750 for mine but I get 12 hours of planning help from her, she'll be there for the rehearsal and the whole wedding day so I won't have to do a thing!

Its so less stressful when someone else is there to handle everything!

We hired a DOC, I want a pro running my day....not me, not my friends or siblings who should be enjoying themselves and don't plan or run formal events.

I hadn't initially thought about hiring one because they're fairly "new" in my circle. I've only ever been in two weddings. One had a DOC and one didn't. It was a HUGE difference.

No DOC wedding: we set up the decorations and centerpieces ourselves. We made the centerpieces the day before- there was no rehearsal or anything. Just staying up till midnight to decorate. GM were there but just hanging out (drove me nuts). A lot of stuff was last minute, not organized and even though I ended up having fun, it was not a relaxing or fun weekend for the majority of it. I wished I was a guest.

DOC wedding: PAMPERED. Rehearsed day before, actually had a casual rehearsal gathering that was fun. Next day we got our hair and makeup done and the flowers were delivered to the hotel room. Wedding went off very well, we had snacks during cocktail hour and drinks. It was relaxing and a really fun weekend.

My experience: I hired a DOC a few months ago. We're now just under a month from the wedding. I just had a 2 hour convo with my DOC running through the entire day. Any questions she had I couldn't answer, she told me not to worry about- she's taking over communicating with my vendors from now so I can focus on my bridal party. Instead of communicating with several people, I only have to touch base with her. She's going to set up my decorations and make sure everything looks like I want it. I also trust her eye for design so I know she'll change anything that doesn't look great and I'm not worried about the day. I plan on pampering my bridal party and family and just enjoying our wedding. And it's 1800 for my DOC which is about midlevel pricing in my area. If your 700 DOC has good reviews- go for it!

It's your decision in the end, but I strongly recommend it. My FH insisted on it since he has catered many weddings and said the ones with a DOC made things flow better.
Ours is $1000. I'm a bit of a control freak, so I'm planning everything. Two months before the wedding, she'll start checking in and making sure I'm on track. She'll help make sure I finish all the small tasks and will create the timeline for the vendors and wedding party. After a year of making decisions, I look forward to handing it all over to her and just enjoying my wedding.

Yes i totally agrre with you. My bridesmaids have helped out with so many other stuff, i want them to enjoy our wedding and not have them running around. We recently booked our DOC, and were getting married in February 9, 2018. To be hosnest i feel less stressed, let a proffesional do it.

In my culture, it would be a slap in the face to not allow them to help. It is how they show their love. Just a thing to keep in mind about people offering to help. But you! can certainly hire one for the vendors and the moving parts!it will 100% be worth it.

We did not have one, our wedding was pretty low key compared to others....however I have heard and read so many horror stories of folks who wished they had one....so hire one!

I’m hiring a DOC I was quoted for $700 which isn’t a bad price but I found someone who’s charging me $550 and they were both amazing. So I say $700 is a great price