Day after Thanksgiving Wedding?

I would still go if it was a close friend or relative, but I wouldn’t be happy about it. For me, the day after thanksgiving is for relaxing in PJs, eating leftovers, and maybe doing some online shopping.

Besides, you may have trouble reaching vendors and running errands in the days leading up to your wedding because of the holiday, and that seems like stress you don’t need.

The day after thanksgiving is Black Friday.. which is when a lot of people do holiday shopping.

If you check with all your VIPs and it’s fine with them, go ahead and try it. Understand that you may have a lot of declines, what with people visiting family. If your venue has a high minimum, that could be problematic. And, as PP mentioned, catering may be difficult, as many of those work on Thanksgiving and will want the following day off. But if you want a small affair of your closest friends and family, it may work fine for you.

If I was invited, I wouldn’t go. I go Black Friday shopping for holidays and then I go and rest and sleep. I wouldn’t wanna hang out with family and then have to do it agajncthr next night for a wedding. Could you push it back to that Saturday? Or the following Friday?

Pros: family MAY be in town.

Cons: it's the day after Thanksgiving.

I would be reluctant to attend.

I think it depends on how many out of town people you have. You would be asking them to travel on thanksgiving or the friday morning (super expensive time to fly as well) and possibly not spend thanksgiving with their family.

Another issue is if you want to have a rehearsal and/or dinner, you’d have to do it on Wednesday. Then you have an awkward gap and if people are coming from OOT, they have to figure out Thanksgiving plans. I wouldn’t recommend it unless you have a compelling reason to do it.

It would be very hard for any of your non-family members to make it, if they don't live locally.

I think it would depend on who and where it is. I usually spend thanksgiving at my parents/where I grew up so if it was a childhood friend or family member, I would be excited to only have to make one trip. If it was a friend local to where I currently live, it would come down to the relationship. Bezt friend or even super close friend? Sure. I would find a way to be there. Otherwise I might not be able to make it due to prioritizing family.

Are you planning a large wedding or small wedding? Thanksgiving is a big holiday in my family and i would only attend if it were a family wedding or my best friend. What about that Saturday or even the weekend before/after?

Think of the traffic! 0.0

I attended a wedding the Friday after Thanksgiving years ago. It worked out well, or maybe I was just so happy for the couple, and it was all so beautiful and a really nice wedding and great time that I just didn't care about the hassle of traveling on Thanksgiving weekend, etc.

There are men on this site too, not just women.

My cousin had a black Friday wedding about 6 years ago. My family still bitches about it and calls her selfish.

The issues I think of are:

1. Traffic. There are always lots of cars on the road Black Friday and it adds a lot of stress when trying to stick to a schedule.
2. Guests who have to choose between going to your wedding or spending time with their families. Your immediate family will likely attend but the guests who use the weekend to visit relatives might have a difficult time attending because they don’t want to choose you over family.
3. For the guests who are off of work for the day, they may just want to relax. Thanksgiving can be stressful with all the cooking and entertaining so some people need the next day to relax and recover.

I am someone who wouldn’t attend a Black Friday wedding unless it were for immediate family.

I would pick another day. Travel will be $$$ that time of year and I think it is a little rude to ask guests to make up for any cost savings you will receive for hosting on Black Friday... (I am assuming that is why you picked this date..)

This is my wedding date! Our family is all local so it works for us (not many people traveling - maybe 2 couples). Plus we got a hell of a deal for ansuper nice venue. If you have a lot of people traveling, that’s one thing, but for us it’s perfect. And my viewpoint was that if shoppinh is more of a priority to you than my wedding, you shouldn’t be at my wedding anyway! I think it all depends on your guests and how easy it will be for them to get there.

Also meant to add we have had absolutely no issues with vendors - most of them seem to always work this day and found it weird that I was worried about the holiday weekend.

That would be a hard no from me. But personally, I'm just not a fan of weddings on or close to holidays. People tend to busy enough without having the added stress of traveling to a wedding. But it's all personal preference of you and your family.

I think it is a bad idea. I think your guests will be tired after Thanksgiving and it may put a dampen the fun on your day. Also, there are the issues people mentioned above regarding traffic, people being with family, etc. Finally, you probably would have a hard time with scheduling a rehearsal dinner as it is usually the night before the wedding, and I think it would put a lot of pressure on your bridal party to be in a wedding the day after Thanksgiving.