Day after gift opening

Supposedly a long-ish time ago (think grandmother getting married), it was normal to open gifts AT the wedding. I can kind of see where the open gifts the day after thing comes from. Regardless, it's not done very often. I only went to one of these 5 years ago.

@Ashley. For real! My FH is very anxious in social situations so he is defiantly against it! There was a thread the other day about bridal portraits and I had never of that tradition. So interesting to hear about other areas and their traditions. Unfortunately they all seem excessive!

We just opened ours at his parents house the next day. They took the gifts and cards home from the reception. Did not have a party for it though. Kind of odd to me.

We actually aren't doing a bridal shower, unless I get a surprise one. But I just told my sister for cost reasons I would prefer a bachelorette party since usually the MOH pays for those right??

We told our moms they could be in charge of the day after brunch.

In Mexican families we have menudo ( stew) when we're hung over lol.

So I told them if they want to coordinate something they can focus on that.

It's like a brunch gathering and who ever wants to come can come.

Idk if that's normal or not either but we just wanted something easy and not spend more money than needed.

I personally don't like the idea.

I went to one when I was a kid and I thought it was lame. I couldn't understand why my cousin was opening their gifts in front of everyone. It was a large, expensive, obnoxious wedding (I was a candle lighter, because I guess you need 5 BMs, MOH, 2 candle lighters, 2 flower girls, and a ring bearer) that took place in the 1980's. The bride's parents hosted the gift opening party at their house and it was pretty much an excuse to brag about he expensive gifts, embarrass those that spent less, and drink more booze. I still think it is weird.

We opened our gifts at the hotel we stayed at on our wedding night.

Mrs. Terakawa, it is in pretty poor taste to tell anyone you want a party hosted for you, especially if it is because someone else is suppose to pay for it.

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Never heard of this. The day after the wedding is normally the day the honeymoon begins. I surely wouldn't want to waste part of it opening gifts.

I plan to have my daughter bring the gifts to my home and my FH and I can open them when we return

I'm in South Jersey. I've never heard of this, wouldn't go to one, and definitely won't be having one.

I have never heard of this, I don't recommend it

@soon to be Mrs. Terakawa- I would not assume that the MOH is paying for the bachelorette party.

I hated doing this at the bridal shower so even if it was a thing in my circle (which it isn't) I wouldn't do it. That doesn't seem like fun for anyone.

Been to a few of them; but I don't believe they are as popular now. Our venue is at a hotel where they offer a free room for gift opening the following day - still unsure if we will do this or not.

I never heard of this

This was fairly common practice in my hometown (rural MN).

I won't be doing one. Nor will I be doing many of the other "traditions" from my hometown's weddings (dollar dance, garter auction, cash bar, the list goes on...).

I think this is a regional thing. I am from the U.P. of Michigan and have been to a few of these back in the day. Even did this after my first wedding 20 years ago. We just invited the BP, grandparents, and a few OOT guests and served a lunch at my parents house. Fortunately, I think this is going out of fashion, thank goodness! It was honestly the last thing I wanted to do the day after my wedding!

I've never heard of a gift opening party. Like @NicoleJ said, it was a tradition to open gifts AT the wedding (atleast it was here in the south). That was 30 years ago though. So this could be a modern way of keeping the same tradition.

Whether you have one depends on whether you and your FH wants to do one and if it's "normal" for your friends and family. If you want to have someone be a part of it, you could do it with immediate family only. You could appoint someone to note the gift and giver for Thank You's.

So who pays for the dinner if we go to a bachelorette dinner ? All of us right? I mean if the moh offers to pay for me but everyone should contribute?

@JuneWillows are you saying that I asked for the extra party the next day and am expecting everyone to pay for it?

Because that's not what I mean, I mean they can organize it with whatever dollar amount I give them. Our moms would like more input on the wedding, but we didn't let them, so they can plan the day after. It's more of a culture thing like I stated before.

My fiance and I are opening all the presents the day after, but only be cause we need to fly back home the next day so we need to have time to get everything packed, condensed, and/or shipped. But it's just gonna be us doing it.

We aren't going to open ours until we get back from our honeymoon

I never attend these. I'm TIRED after a party. I don't want to get up early to go and watch someone say, "Ooh. A toaster."

I've never heard of this. Open them when you are ready to open them. We are opening them when we have time.