Day After Brunch? Who Pays?

Putting it on your website makes it sound like you’re hosting. Telling people via word of mouth, hey, we’re going to brunch at xyz on Sunday morning, if anyone would like to meet us,” would let people know that they’re paying for themselves.

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Ah, yes. Ok, that makes sense. Thanks

I have been curious about this too! We plan to have our rehearsal dinner/welcome party on our wedding website (but only visible for thoes invited) plus my future in laws will be footing the bill for that. We also plan to have a afterparty after the ceremony and dinner and the afterparty will not be paid for. Im still trying to figure out how to advertise that... I have been at a wedding after party before where it seemed to be a standard rule everyone covered themselves. Im not sure what i typical of a brunch.
I would maybe spread word of mouth? If all ootg are invited maybe add it to a welcome bag? I would definitely add to any type of invite whether it is online or paper that everyone is going Dutch with payment.

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We are having an afterparty at our venue as well. I put it on the website. Maybe we could put Sunday Brunch "non-hosted". Is that tacky, though? But the other suggestion works too. I could just tell everyone word of mouth. I just wanted ppl to know so that they keep that in mind when booking tickets, that there will be something going on the following day. Our website is on the Knot. I wonder if I can elect to show certain events to certain ppl. I'll have to check.

We had a day after brunch and I put it on our website and on an insert with the invitations. We included where, when and the price of breakfast on both so it was clear we were not paying as it was an optional event.

View Quoted Comment That's such a great idea. And now Im kicking myself because we're just now deciding to do it and invites went out today, so it's too late for that. But your idea is great. I can add it to the site with the location and include a price and it will be super-clear. Did you have ppl RSVP for that, or was it jist an FYI on your website?

View Quoted Comment People were supposed to rsvp, but a lot of them forgot to even though it was listed on the reply card. It ended up not mattering because there was enough room and food.

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Did you do a buffet? Sorry for all the questions lol

View Quoted Comment Our venue was a hotel and they have a restaurant located in the lobby. Our coordinator at the venue recommended having people RSVP to make sure there would be enough seating. Because so many people didn't RSVP and some people were unsure if they were attending or not, we weren't able to get an accurate count. We also were there for like 2.5 hours so our guests could come and go as they please so there was plenty of seating. Guests had the option to food order off a menu or go to the buffet.

Typically anything after the wedding is "pay for yourself." If you include this as part of your wedding website, details card etc, it implies that you are hosting it which also means that you pay. I would just let everyone know that it is something you would like to do and for them to let you know if they would like to join you guys so that you can make sure there is enough seating.

View Quoted Comment Thanks. I forgot to mentionnthat most of the ppl who would be coming to the brunch are our out of town guests (it's a destination for half of our guests)..With that in mind, is it wrong to ask them to pay for themselves?

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No. It is not required that they come, it's optional. I think people would assume they pay for themselves unless it was something being hosted by the hotel as part of your wedding package.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your input!

If you organize it like an event, then you should host/pay. What we did was mention on our website and on our welcome pamphlets "the bride & groom will be hanging out at the hotel bar on Friday night from 8-10PM if you want to see us before the wedding, and Sunday morning we will be in the lobby saying goodbye to our guests!". It was a great chance to see everyone and no one assumed it was hosted.

I think mentioning casually that it's optional is the way to go. "Would you love one last chance to hang out before we're off? We're planning on brunching the day after the wedding, if anyone is interested in joining us."

I don't know, though. Anything official on the website could make it seem hosted, unless it's just a separate invitation portion to fill out on the website that only out-of-town guests will see. Like we put our rehearsal dinner on there for specific guests but not everyone could see those details. Then you could mention that it's optional and that you're not paying for it. LOL.

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Hi Simone, are you inviting to the after party at your venue? I am still debating whether to include the "after party" or just omit it completely...was planning on hiring the dj for a couple extra hours and just covert the bar to self-pay. Thoughts?

View Quoted Comment So, our venue closes at 10 and it opens to the public at that time. It's a rooftop bar. They offer a VIP section of the roof with bottle service beginning at 10 p.m. with a $500 minimum. I'm trying to work it out where the minimum can be met by the guests so I don't have to buy the bottles up front and spend more money.

Right now, I have it on the website without asking for any RSVPs. For us, I think I need to leave it up there because half of our guest are traveling across country to the venue and I want them to see that there's going to be more than just the wedding. And this is why I wanted to do a brunch so it can feel like a full weekend for my family and friends who are traveling. But I'm not going to put the brunch on the website though, based on everyone's suggestions.

Welcome dinners and day after brunches that are scheduled and advertised in advance are the responsibility of the host. It would be inappropriate to add the event to your wedding website and then expect people to pay their own way.