Dates

I understand your feelings. Though my husband and I are all ready married we were planning on having our main wedding last year on November 7th. This did not happen due to family issues that came up. The day of I did mourn and have a good cry. My hubby and I ended up going out that day and making it an incredible time. If you cannot do it on the date I know it could be very difficult but, trust and know that the most important thing will be the union between the two of you. If it is more important to have the people you love with you then the date is I would say go with that. Best wishes. 💛

Wait why they cannot come in October ? Everyone overseas should be able to come right ? I mean my date is sooner than yours mine is August 7th and my sister is suppose to come from Switzerland in July so far no cancelations . Crossing my finger she would still maKd it . Are they canceling flights till October ? 😒😒😒

View Quoted Comment My parents are coming from England and there is some instability with the airlines plus they have been told that flying to the US (which is a hotspot of cases) is considered only for "essential travel" so not sure about Switzerland. We had to also consider the high risk categories of our guests.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Kandice! I agree, everyone has different priorities, but we really want the people we love to be there for the weekend. I appreciate your kind words!😊

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Ugh so sorry you had to postpone too!😣 I know everyone has different reasons for postponing, I'm an overthinker too (obviously) so I keep doubting the decision. But we're in it now, have talked to most of our amazing vendors and trying to get all that situated. You're right, major lemonade needs to be made! Best wishes on your new date too!😊

View Quoted Comment Oh that's really fun with your dates! So glad you're able to make the next date meaningful! I'm trying to get our engagement anniversary date on the books but our vendors are being awesome so that really helps. Best of luck to you and thanks for the pep talk, I appreciate it!

View Quoted Comment That is so true, and I'll get there it just takes some time for my brain to process it all out!

View Quoted Comment Being a fan of Hunger Games that could work lol! Honestly, my brain really needs to process it all out and then I'll be ok. I read someone else on the forums say that once their original date passed they felt much better about the new date. I'm thinking this is how it will go for us! Thanks!

View Quoted Comment I'm on my 6th date. We moved incrementally instead of big jumps. So, I've had to let go of many dates. I'm just considering the entire year ours at this point. April 2 (moved because of family couldn't attend), May 4 (miffed because of family graduations), June 27th (moved due to Covid), Aug 8 (Covid), September 24 (Covid - venue canceled), and now our last stand - September 28th. I'll marry him on the side of the road on that date if I have to!


So, I really do understand.

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Our date also meant nothing to us until it became our date and we spend 8+ months fixated on it. Fortunately the only thing we customized with our date was my FH's suit, and we ended up getting married on that date anyway. His parents also got us something with 5/30/20 on it, but oddly it arrived at our house the week of the elopement, and Covid craziness started in mid-March, and there were a solid 10 weeks in between, so I'm pretty sure they ordered it sometime during that questionable period (which makes no sense, but whatever). At least the two things we have with that date on it have some significance now.

We wanted to get a guestbook alternative that was a poster with a star map on it - customized to a specific date and location. Fortunately, I reached out to the Etsy seller beforehand and was told they need about 4 weeks lead time, so I held off ordering. We may end up doing that for our new date, but I'm not even going to consider ordering it until the last minute we can, just in case the world is still crazy a year from now and we have to postpone the big celebration again.

Helena, it's okay to stress. A month before our wedding we had to postpone. We went from May 24, 2020 to December 28, 2020. I did not have a big fix on 5/24/20, but my groom did. He thought about how he didn't want to celebrate our anniversary along with other holidays, and if we kept our May date then we'd usually have a long weekend (Memorial day) around the date that we could go away or celebrate.

After making the decision to postpone, but not loving the date, we chose to get married and celebrate anyway on May 24th. We were fortunate enough to be able to have both sets of parents around, along with my husbands sister, my brother was not able to come. We had a beautiful small ceremony and had a ZOOM call with others that could not attend due to restrictions. We plan to celebrate next Memorial Day with both sides of our family back home in Western, NY.

Make the best of it. You got this!!

View Quoted Comment I pray that everything works out beautifully for you both and your family. 💛

View Quoted Comment Hi dear. So how are they flying from England? Are they allowed in? If it’s considered hotspot will the usa allow Europeans in ?

Ugh I am in the same boat! I found the perfect venue in Jersey City with the nyc skyline in the background and we secured 10/24/20... it was a painless process, only one of two venues we saw and we knew it was perfect for us. But, with NJ being such a hot spot, and almost half of our guests being out of towners who would have to fly in, I am so worried it is too risky to wait and see if another wave is coming. We are thinking of doing a small, civil ceremony with just immediate family this year outside on the patio of a restaurant in my hometown in August while the weather is nice enough to bet on outside events... then next fall we can pick another date. The woman at the venue kept trying to tell me October “should” be fine, but personally I hate not knowing more than just pushing it out and not having to worry anymore.
Bonus - I bought another wedding dress! A super cute off the rack flowing gown from BHLDN, to help cheer myself up about it

Lmao! I usually hate odd numbers but ironically our date is 07/11 and I figured out it was also the same date that FH and I had contact with each for the first time of our relationship. I also like the idea of going for slushees on our anniversaries lol.

Don't worry it's a very small part of your big day in the grand scheme of things. Let things fall into place. Don't stress.

View Quoted Comment Omg ours is too!! For next year. Congratulations 🎉

View Quoted Comment Thank you and congrats to you too! We can all celebrate by going for slushees lol

View Quoted Comment Exactly!!!! Lol yes I have to have a beach wedding now that my fiance has out it in my head lol. Love the summer, was born in the summer. ♥️

I loved our date of 6-20-2020 and it was hard to let it go! But I am going to make sure the day is still extra special, and now I'm even more excited to (COVID willing) have a Christmas wedding.