Date and no venue?

It's not lol!

People need to understand that you dont have a date until you have a venue! Is common sense :/

She will find out real quick she doesn't have a date until she has a venue. Maybe she's eloping? Courthouse?

I feel like the answer to this is pretty obvious. She has a date she WANTS to get married, but that doesn't make it official, unless they are going to the court house, and even then most court houses in my area require an appointment.

Some people decide on a venue and choose whatever date that venue has available that fits certain criteria, other people have a date in mind and are more flexible in which venue they use that allows them to use the date they want. Not really that hard to understand.

ETA as long as she isn't sending STDs or invitations with a date and no venue, I don't see anything wrong with anticipating getting married on a certain date. Still not super smart that she's telling people it's her date (which clearly she did if you know about it), but most people don't book plane tickets or hotel rooms off someone just saying what their date is.

It's not possible..... She has wishful thinking

It's easy to say "it's common sense!" when you've been through that stage of planning.

But if you've never planned a wedding, you just may not know. I sure didn't.

People also get caught up in the rush of emotions, it's only natural. There's a lot of excitement and so you don't think logically "I want to get married on July 25th because of x,y,z reason, but oh, July 25th is on a Wednesday..."

Well, maybe she has a date far enough in advance that she will be able to find a venue to accommodate her. But until she has a venue, she really doesn't have a set date.

You can have a date all you want..but its not confirm til you lock it in with a venue..

Unrealistic. I mean I had a tentative date but once we found our venue that date wasnt available!

I have a date I just needed to find a venue I liked available for the date that wanted and it work I planned my wedding in less then 6 months is possible

It's not as easy as "common sense". Before, I started planning I had no idea that my "date" was contingent on the venue's availability. I soon realized that if I wanted our venue I had to be flexible on the date, to a certain point. There's too much excitement going on when you're newly engaged, once the planning start, that's when reality hits.

I don't think it's wrong to have a target date in mind. It may change but it's good to identify at least a strong potential timeframe. For us, we had a very narrow window of time for our date, because my MOH twin sister works in medicine and has one week off next year aside from the winter holidays. So we set out to find a venue in our budget that had that weekend available. We looked at a wide variety of kinds of venues and were lucky to find one we loved that had our date available. If they are committed to a specific date, they need to be ready to be flexible on venue style, budget, and other details. It depends how far out the target date is as well!

She doesn't have a date, she has a wish/hope

I mean she could be very set in the date and therefore will only be open to seeing venues with the date available. Depending on how far away the wedding is and how prime their date is will tell if she's being realistic or not. We are not booked yet so when people ask we say we are looking at June 2019. I just have a date set here because it wouldn't let me sign up without a date.

This frustrated me to no end when I was trying to find a venue. Every time I asked a venue for their availability and prices they would ask me what my wedding date was. I had trouble explaining to them that I had chosen a season and day of the week but would pick a date based on venue availability.

It's not possible, thats just the date she WANTS

I had a date I wanted, so I looked for venues with that available. Luckily, my date is in the wedding off season, so I had options. I didn't anticipate, though, that even off season some venues wouldn't want a wedding as small as mine (50 guests) on a Saturday.

Dates are important to some people, they are to me. So picking a date and finding someplace available is completely doable if she's flexible on a venue.

Ummm it's not having a venue BOOKED gives you your wedding date. I guarantee you her wedding date will most likely change. We had picked a date but our venue was already booked for that day so we had to choose another.

We had a wedding date before we had a venue. November 4 will be the 19-year anniversary of our first date. We knew this would be our wedding date - we looked for a few months until we found a venue. You can have a wedding date without a venue.