Dance/drinks invite only?

It would be rude because it would be extremely awkward for those guests invited to only a drinks and dancing.

Rude. do not do this. You will get a lot of brides on here freakin the eff out because it's THAT rude.

In my small town, it's fairly common to have an "open dance"

But it's a little different to send invitations for just the dance...

This comes up at least once every other day. It is rude. There is no way around that.

Also, if you're not a troll, change your avatar to picture or something.

No, thats really rude.

Would you be offended if you were invited only to drink and dance? I would be.

It may void your contract with the venue as well.

I wouldn't be offended if I received an invite to the dance only. But that's just me. Also Tina brings up a good point about the venue I didn't think about that. looks like I have my answer. Thanks!

No.

RUDE! Don't do this!!!

Nope, that say "hey you aren't important enough to come watch us get married or to feed, but sure come dance" also you would need to let your venue know that you will have an increased number of guests after dinner, they will charge you for that if you are paying pp or won't allow it at all because you are already at max capacity.

I'd be pissed if someone did this to me, honestly. Not good enough to watch you actually get married or have a meal, but sure I can come and dance.

Also, your venue most likely won't let that fly since you pay pp and they don't exactly let you say # of people are eating, # are drinking, so you'll either end up paying for their food regardless, or pissing your venue off with the free liquor they are drinking and possibly fining you.

This should be added to the hot topics thread.

This would be fine in the UK, but definitely not in the US where (as I've learned from WW) invites are all or nothing. Either they're invited to the whole shebang or they aren't invited at all.

It's likely your venue contract is also set up that way (all-day guests only)

"You're good enough to have a couple of drinks and bring a card with money or a gift but not good enough for us to feed you dinner."

If I was invited to just dinner/dancing, I would be offended. I would only go if it was an open bar. And you see the problem with that, OP? I wouldn't be going to celebrate you, I'd be going for a free night out. ETA: rephrased the first sentence.

Rude..unfortunately

I don't think this is rude at all. If you have a large family like my Fiancé and I do, how can you afford to pay for the dinner for everyone? I think it would be more rude to not be invited at all than to at least be invited to the celebration dance.

View Quoted Comment I agree with you - huge family and since we are paying for the entire wedding ourselves . I think it is not rude to just invite people to the dance portion . They at least come to celebrate with us . I don’t think this is rude at all. And for the one person in this thread that said they will only go for an open bar - I think that is rude . Not everyone can afford a big elaborate wedding but what is important you get to spend with family and friends no matter what portion of the wedding it is . With NO expectations of anything in return from them ! like I said this is how it is where we live .

Etiquette says this is flat out rude. You invite people to all events or none.


Even guests will be upset but will only talk among themselves. No one ever tells the couple when they are offended.

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Yes, this.