Dads blessing?

No, my father would not only have hated that, he would have told DH that it was inappropriate to ask.

I'm in my mid-30s, and my father is not in charge of my life.

Now, it so happens that DH and my dad get along fabulously. But asking for my father's blessing would have infantalized me, which would have undermined the relationship.

Yes, its a respectful thing to do. He asked both of my parents at the same time

No because I am not close to my dad where he would even have any authority to say yes or no... and by that time my mom was practically begging him to propose, he didn’t tell anyone so it was a crazy surprise and I loved it that way

No.. My dad didn't really know my fiance. My fiance moved to Montana and about 6 months later I moved. My dad didn't really get to know him before I moved, they have since grew some what of a relationship. I also didn't know he didn't ask, so I texted him after with a photo and said we were engaged. As much as I love my dad I still feel like it's my choice who I marry. I think it did hurt my dads feelings a little bit, and I also think if my Fiance were to do it again he may at least mention to my dad that he was going to do it.

Yes! We went on a family cruise and he asked my dad on a shore excursion they did together. FH proposed 3 months later.

Yes, it's the respectful thing to do

Yes he did! About a month before he proposed. Every time we were around my dad I would leave them alone together in case he was gunna ask

My dad's, my mom's, and even asked my two best friends' "approval", LOL. Completely unnecessary since I was 36, this would be my second marriage, and frankly, I make my own decisions regardless of anyone else's approval, but his heart was in the right place.

Funny story, I had a girls night with my two friends and a couple other acquaintances a few weeks before he took me on a birthday trip to propose. I tipsily "confessed" to them that I thought he was going to propose soon because he was not at ALL subtle asking me about ring preference/sizing over the last few months. They later told me that they had to keep their cool until I left the room to go to the bathroom and then quietly freaked out (and explained to the other two ladies present that they were freaking because they knew he was planning to propose on my birthday), LOL. That was a running joke for a little while.

No. I think it's a nice gesture for those who are into it, but it's a bit patriarchal for me. We literally told my parents the day before society basically shut down :-(

No. Absolutely not. He knows that my parents, whole family and I think that adult young men and women make their own decisions, and much as we love our parents, and they us, no one would ever thing any of us need ask our parents' blessing, or permission. And the idea that as a daughter, my FI would go to my father, before me would make me angry, and make me think twice about marrying in someone so sexist, who did not see me as and independent woman and not a dependent of my father's.
A misguided former boyfriend did go to my father to ask his permission. They had liked him, got along. But my father told him any man who would come to him for permission, before proposing to me, did not know me well enough to marry me. Then unceremoniously threw him out. My mother is as great an influence in my life as my Dad. And one reason we have stayed as close and happy as adults is because they accept anyone I love, because they love me. And also, respect my decisions. And single or married, we respect each other's boundaries.

Yes, he asked for both of my parents' blessing.

Unfortunately my dad s deceased but he did ask my son. Which was just as meaningful.

My husband would definitely have asked my dad for my hand in marriage. Unfortunately, my dear beloved dad passed away two years ago, but he would have been so happy for us both. By the way I’m 58 and my husband is 67 😃

Absolutely not and I would be furious if they did. Not that they would, because they know me and we are of the same understanding here.


Although it would've been my mother, not dad, since she raised me but that's beside the point.