Daddy Issues

My cousin had her mother walk her down because they were much closer and also divorced! It was beautiful nonetheless!! I say do what makes YOU happy !

My mom walked me down the aisle because my dad was dead.

My parents both walked me down the aisle. I think it's all about what makes sense for you.

My sister had my Mom walk her down the aisle and she danced with my Dad. We're not close to our Dad and it's gotten worse since he wedding. I'm walking myself and I'm agonizing over what to do about the dance. I choose to walk by myself bc I'm not close with my Dad anymore and bc I'm in my mid 30s, have been fully independent for a long time.

It’s all about what you prefer! I actually asked FH’s stepfather to walk me down the aisle, and it feels right. Don’t worry about what others think and let the father figure or who you want to “give you away” to your groom, in this case your mom!

I am very close to my father, and he is one of my role models as I have learned much from him. I would never consider having anyone else walk me as I have always looked forward to this special moment between the two of us.

I don’t have a dad, FH’s dad offered but I want to save that moment for his actual daughter. My mom is going to walk me down the aisle. She said “Don’t pick anyone else! That’s my job”

so sweet ❤️❤️❤️ If she didn’t walk me down, I would likely have MOH walk me down (probably not since she’s FH’s sister but also my BFF) or my childhood best friend.

View Quoted Comment I'm probably doing this, same situation. Just worried she'll ugly cry and ruin the pictures

View Quoted Comment I’m with you! Idk if i should dance with my mom or not!

By myself, or have my two kids escort me, my son walking first and then my daughter close behind, with me following. Reasons are because my father was not in my life, my step father was until age 12 but I don't want him to walk me. My FH suggested his dad, but when I think about my two beautiful children walking in front of me down the aisle my heart melts.

View Quoted Comment I struggle with this too bc I don't want to hurt my Dad's feelings by not honoring him or choosing to dance with my Mom instead even though he's the one that's distanced himself from us. I'm hurt by it and I guess I still care about him being my Dad. Plus if my FH dances with his Mom, i worry that it's weird if I don't dance with a parent. But I also don't want to deny that experience for FH and his Mom.

You can do it however you want. I'm planning to either go down by myself or do a first look with FH and walk with him.

If you want your mom, ask your mom. DO what makes you comfortable. My first wedding my brother walked me as our dad had passed. I wanted my mom to do it but she did not feel comfortable. Second wedding - had no aisle!! We gathered and then announced we were starting!!! LOL!

I'm walking myself down the aisle. I have always been headstrong and independent though... In addition my father is from the middle East and walking your daughter down the aisle isn't a thing where he is from.
However, there is now a chance he won't be attending at all because - and I can't make this up - after discussing things, after having a save the date magnet on his fridge for 4 months, he went and planned his vacation/visit home to the middle east to start 2 weeks before the wedding and not returning until a month later...soooo yeah. As of now he is saying he didnt going to change his vacation plans...5 months to the wedding so we shall see.

I don’t have a good relationship with my father he will not be at my wedding so I’m having my brother who is 10 years older than me walk me down and then he will officiate the wedding he’s been the only stable male figure in my life and he’s the only person I want to give me to my FH

My mother will be walking me down the aisle. 😊

Thanks everyone for your replies! It’s nice to see so many of you are having your moms do it!

View Quoted Comment Oh no! That’s so sad! I hope he changes his mind...

I don't really want my father to walk me down the aisle, either. My parents are still married and my dad's in his 90s, so while I am glad he's still here and can do it, I don't have a close relationship with him or really look up to him. Honestly, I told my mother I thought they should get divorced when I was 8 and never changed my mind. But, my father loves me and I don't want to hurt his feelings, especially now that he's older he gets very emotional. So, I may have both of them walk with me if I don't do it alone. There will be no "giving away" in any case. My mom's already told me that he wants to do the father-daughter dance, which I also don't want to do, so I am weighing that, too, along with FH having the chance to dance with his mom. I shouldn't be surprised at how family dynamics come to a head at these moments, but I still am. I guess I don't have any advice except that it might be easier to explain that you would rather walk alone.

My stepdad is walking me down the aisle. That’s because he pretty much raised me. So I feel that he deserves the honor of giving me away. Plus my fiancé ask my mom and stepdad for my hand in marriage so Itwas only right. Yes my father is still living but he as never done anything for me.