Dad and Step-dad giving me away

Well I'm bumping this cause I have the same question/ issue.

I think the earlier you tell him then better it will be... that way he does not think you are hiding the truth.. and that way if he gets upset he will hopefully be over it by then!

Natasha I am in the same boat as you LOl.. My wedding is in July & I haven't told any of my dads that one will be walking me half way down the alter then my step-dad will walk me to my groom since he is the one who actually raised me. So I haven't found the right words to not seem like I am giving one more lime light then the other. LOL...

My FH's daughter is close to both him and her stepdad, so I've been envisioning her wedding and the drama that could ensue (luckily she's only 8 so we have some time to worry about that). The way I figure it is that you're right- your dad is more than likely expecting that both of your dads will give you away. I know my FH would not be offended if his daughter wanted to have both him and her stepdad give her away. He understands that her stepdad is as big a part of her life as he is, and besides- any dad wants their daughter to be happy and have the wedding of their dreams. He will understand, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

I would say this to him, "Dad, I love you so much and I'm sure you know that I want you to give me away at my wedding. But [insert stepdad's name] has always been there for me too, so I feel like it would only be fair to have both of you give me away." *Huge hug*

I love Jenn's wording I don't think you will have a problem

I think Jenn gives great wording. Definitely do it sooner than later so that if issues arise, they can be squashed before the wedding!

I like what jen said as well I would not use the word but tho.

I will be doing the same and I just told my Dad ASAP and he was totally fine with it! I think the only problem I see is do you have to dance with both of them? Or could you just dance with your Father? Thanks

Daddy~ 'step dad' is going to be walking me (part way down the isle and giving me away, but I really would love, and would be soo honored, if you would walk me down the isle first, to meet up with him. It would mean so much for me to start my journey to my new life the way I started my first journey~ point being, to present it as an honor for him to do so, no jealousy issues and his importance is highlighted

Thanks to all of who have posted, you have really helped. Jen I loved the way you wrote out exactly what I could say to him, thanks. I will tell him as soon as I can I don't think he will care to much I mean my step-dad has been in my life since I was 2. But thanks for everything!!!

Jenn answered wonderfully! I am also having my dad and stepdad give me away. Dad gets pretty silly at time so I'm going to wait until June 25 (day of wedding) to tell Dad! J/k! i'll tell him sometime next year though seriously!