Just Said Yes July 2018

Cutting the song short

Arielle , on June 4, 2018 at 9:24 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 10
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For our first dance, our wedding planner said an almost four and 1/2 minute long song will become awkward after two minutes. Well our joint mother/son- Father/Daughter song is just as long. Anyone cut the song down??
(First dance: “Perfect” the Leroy Sanchez version)
(Parents dance: “You’ll be in my heart” by Phil Collins)


Latest activity by Angelica , on June 8, 2018 at 3:01 AM
  • Meet_The_Clarks
    VIP June 2018
    Meet_The_Clarks ·
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    You could ask the dj to fade the song out and then make the announcement for whatever is happening next. This is what I intend to do.

    First Dance- Stand by Me, by Ben E King

    Parent Dance (also at the same time)- My wish by Rascal Flatts

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal Online ·
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    Absolutely agree with your planner -- watching nonprofessionals dance for more than a minute or two is at least awkward and sometimes painful (even Dancing with the Stars only uses 90 seconds or less). Your DJ should know how to help you select an appropriate 60-90 second segment of your songs, and, believe me, that will be plenty (for you, and more than enough for your guests)!

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  • Jay
    Expert September 2013
    Jay ·
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    Hi Arielle,

    Yes, people edit their song choices all the time for different reasons. Working with the DJ to get your favorite parts of the song, then fading them into the next dance will surely keep the attention of your guests.

    Be prepared to provide the DJ with song cut/edit times. (Ex: at 2:25 into "Perfect" announce the parents and fade into 1:05 of "You'll be in my heart" )

    Photo: PinterestCutting the song short 1

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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    We honestly just walked off the dance floor when we were done. We forgot to tell the DJ we wanted to cut it short, so we did a big dip, then were done.

    No one ever wants to watch a full song.

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    Dedicated September 2018
    Ashley ·
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    This is the time for the bride and groom to enjoy this dance together as husband and wife. Nobody should every cut their song short. Our first song is over 3 mins and everyone better enjoy the moment
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    Super August 2018
    FutureMrsO ·
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    Our band and dance instructor said no more than 2 minutes because people get bored just watching others dance. So after our two minute mark, either other couples will be invited to join us on the dance floor or we will fade to the parent dances, also being kept at 2 minutes the most.

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  • Mrs. Fall Bride
    Master October 2016
    Mrs. Fall Bride ·
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    I'm a wedding singer and spotlight dances (couple's first dance, parent dances) are pretty much always cut down. Totally normal and standard to have your DJ or band fade out after a minute or two.

    Your other option, though, is to have your guests join you on the dance floor halfway through the songs. We did that halfway through our first dance, and it was really nice to have everyone out there for our song. Parent dances we cut short though.

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  • MrsSnez
    Super October 2018
    MrsSnez ·
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    We aren't doing parent dances, but we're going to have the DJ invite guests to the dance floor about half way there our first dance. FH is picking our song so I don't even know what we're dancing to yet lol.
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  • Kendra
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kendra ·
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    It is your wedding yes it might be odd but it is your day. I don't find anything wrong with have a song that long if it means a lot to you.
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  • Angelica
    Devoted June 2019
    Angelica ·
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    Love the idea of inviting the others to join. Parent dances aren't being done at my wedding simply because the only one left is my mother. She hates attention so just giving me away will be more than enough for her. 😉
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