Coworker RSVP :/

I wouldn't address this issue. Technically, you gave her a plus one and she's using it. Plus, you don't to drum up any drama with people you work with... Your wedding is one day but unless you're planning to switch jobs soon, you still have to work with the uninvited co-worker.

@Lana, did you read previous comments, or the OP's original post? She invited her SO by name, and she does not work there anymore.

I just saw your comment where you don't work with them anymore so I will update my advice. You can definitely confront her if you feel this strongly since you don't have to see them on the daily. I still wouldn't because then the co-worker you did invite might not come. BUT it's up to you

@gymrat I guess I was typing my update at the same time you were LOL. I do wish Wedding Wire would do like Wedding Bee and highlight the OP's responses in a different color

If you invited her specifically with her husband, you are well within your right to tell her that invitations are not transferrable, and the invitation was for her and her husband only.

It's annoying, but I would probably let it go unless there is a real reason I didn't want that other coworker there (besides that it isn't good manners or what "should" happen).

An SO is not a random plus one. A person holding a big expensive party has every right to curate their guest list.

@RaeGin yes they will have to travel 2 hrs (by car) from Portland to Tacoma/Seattle to attend the wedding.

I was invited to a coworkers wedding last year and my FH did not want to go... I brought another coworker with me, however I asked the bride if it was okay and made it CLEAR I would come alone if it was not okay. She said it was totally fine and she wanted to invite coworker but she did not have room, so it all worked out.

Difference is, I asked first before I said anything to other coworker. I think it is rude of her to just bring whoever she wants, but what can you do at this point?

Let her know that if the other person was invited you would have sent her an invitation.

Just call the coworker you invited and say that the invite was intended for her and her SO only and that you have to stick to your intended list.