Coworker Invites

I would just mail them. Saving a few dollars on postage doesn't seem worth it to potentially cause more hurt feelings.

I would mail them to avoid drama in your office.

Totally fine to just invite the select few. But mail them.

If you don't have the addresses (or don't want to mail them), I would get to work really early and discretely leave it on their desk. However, doing that gives them the opportunity to show other co-workers and/or have them ask if they received theirs.

I like this idea! I'm already one of the first ones in the building in the morning anyways, not to mention our office is huge and spread out. I think for at least my current boss of the department I'm not inviting, I'll explain the situation to her so she'll know not to broadcast it lol

This is a good idea! I'm comfortable explaining the situation to the people I am inviting to avoid conflict as much as possible. At the same time, I'm just annoyed at the fact that everyone is expecting an invite in the first place. I'm really only concerned with hurting the feelings of the people in my department, but I'll explain that to my boss.

I completely understand. I work in a medical facility and travel to many locations. Everyone in all the locations I go are always asking if they are going to get an invite. I always struggle coming up with something like "We have to see how many family members we have on our guest list before we can start including work friends." I'm inviting a handful of people from the different locations...but to invite all of them would be more than my whole guest list! I've just asked everyone that I'm inviting for their mailing address so I can mail the invites since I don't see them all often enough to hand deliver in time.

I am basically in the same boat. I work for a small family run company and there is maybe a total of 20 people who work here, myself and my boss included. I'm for sure inviting my boss and his wife, and I actually asked him is opinion on inviting coworkers. His advice was to just invite the 2 people I work with all day, every day, and not worry about everyone else. His 2 sons work here as well and he told me to not even bother inviting them if I don't want to/don't have the space. So my plan is to just send those 3 invites in the mail and if someone finds out that they weren't invited I just hope they think about it and realize that hey...we really aren't that close.

My office has 40 people. I am inviting 6 of them.
I don't think anyone in their right mind actually assumes I'm inviting the whole office, and therefore i didn't feel the need to send out a "please don't talk about this with anyone" caveat with my save-the-dates. Everyone in the office knows I am engaged, so asking them to never talk about the wedding with me at work isn't reasonable, I don't think. There's lots of us around the same age and getting married around the same time, so it's a common subject. Maybe my expectations are too high that there won't be issues, but so far there hasn't, and I just assume my co-workers will act like reasonable adults, lol.

I would mail them also to avoid the shenanigans

I agree that it's fine to not invite every single co-worker, but mailing invites would definitely eliminate potential drama!

Boy is she going to be surprised when her invite never arrives!! LOL People are so rude!

Thank you for this post! I'm in the same predicament as well and now I have a solution!