Covid worries from a nurse getting married

Obviously none of us know what will happen in the upcoming months, but I unfortunately think that things will only be worse when COVID meets flu and RSV season.

It comes down to are you will to have back up plans meaning less people in attendance. Every bride is different. Now if the state shuts down that is one thing but if COVID is not controlled it is a matter of what you and your fh want. The big wedding or even something just you two and a few guests? Some brides want the day the planned to get married no matter what and some are willing to postpone. Where are your thoughts? Caytlyn brings up a good point of the winter not being better.

It’s hard to say, but I do think it’s early to tell.

A few things we did was we contacted our venue early on, and they provided their policies for rescheduling, which reassured us and allowed us to wait to make a decision; we also came up with a Plan B and a Plan C. Ultimately we went with Plan B (a little modified but very close to our plan).

I think it’s worth discussing with FH and making some alternate plans awhile in case things don’t go as planned.

There's a lot of brides still having their wedding but with precautions.

it sounds like everyone around you is saying to go for it because where you are at is not as bad as the places with hotspots, etc.

but as far as covid is concerned i definitely do not believe it's just going to go away by the end of the year either .

I do not think things will be better in December in fact, the opposite. i would avoid postponing if possible because who knows how things will be even further out.

I agree that moving into flu and rsv season in addition to still dealing with Covid is a definite concern. We set ourselves a deadline, three months before our wedding to decide if we would postpone or keep going. I’d review all of tour contracts and see what time frame you have to make a decision. Stay safe!

Hi Sydney - I live in Wisconsin as well. Getting married on 8/8. We made the decision sometime in May to postpone our reception, and our ceremony in August will just be wedding party and immediate family. Honestly I’m a planner myself and it just made me feel better knowing that I had a plan in place and something to bank on. I’m not sure what to expect in December, but my advice would be to start just asking questions to your venue and vendors to see what their policies are. From one Wisconsinite to another!

I wrote about why we decided to postpone in May which may/may not be useful to you at this point, but here it is in case you're interested: https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/why-were-postponing/3125cb7ca616936b.html


I think the best thing you can do is come up with a back-up plan or several. I'm in MA, so we already went through a pretty bad time with the coronavirus, but while that was happening, everyone in the south was kind of saying they had made it through safely, and that pretty clearly turned out not to be true. It can get very bad, very quickly.(For example, in the beginning, when there weren't enough tests, we knew something was wrong because we heard SO MANY more sirens/ambulances going by every day. This started before our area got attention for being a hotspot.)It's hard to know where we'll be in 5 months. I certainly didn't think in February, that this is where we'd be today. But, it's a lot easier to deal with whatever comes up if you have back-up plans, and it would be a lot more devastating to make the decision to change your plans in November If there's a spike in cases and/or a change in regulations than it would be to make the decision now.

I think you should move the wedding, we don't know what the future hold but looking at the trends its not a pretty picture, kids will be going back to school soon too and I'm positive it will add to cases all around. Flu season is coming too. I think to be safe its best to move it or at least come up with a plan B.

I live in ny which was the epicenter of the virus at one point, also healthcare worker here. my worry is that i have to get tested every week what if i get a false positive before the wedding?? but anyway I dont think we know if things will be better in december. maybe we will hit herd immunity by then and it will disappear or it will be a disaster with the flu. if i were u id still go ahead with it but just make a plan B. im doing the same with my september wedding. i just have a funny suspicion this isnt going anway even next year. they said on the news the other day that they think it will be at least another 18 months before a vaccine. i wanna get the wedding over with and no more stress.

I think it is so hard to tell. We were supposed to be May 30 and in March we postponed to August 22 and are moving forward (with some safety measures in place of course). Our wedding is in upstate NY and in March they were doing terribly, now they are doing amazing. The optimistic side of me is saying that states are learning from the mistakes of Texas and Florida and starting to require more masks (except in those state for some reason??). If it were my wedding, I would hang onto the date but be prepared to possibly reduce the guest count. Hope your big day is amazing hang in there

My fiance are schedule to marry October 10th and we are moving forward, although we have Plan A, B, and C.


Plan A - our wedding and reception are held as originally planned: ceremony at the park, reception at the hotel. Add a few things like masks and hand sanitizer.
Plan B - If they again limit gatherings to 10 people or less, the ceremony will be immediate family only with my sister as our officiant. We will stream the wedding for those who can't attend, reschedule the reception at a later date and have a family bbq at my sister's back yard.
Plan C - If they limit gatherings and close all parks again: wedding will take place in my sister's back yard, immediate family only, stream for other guests, reschedule the reception and have a family bbq at my sister's.
Now just trying to figure out what we can to further make our reception safe. The hotel has a mask mandate, so we will provide masks and they will be required when not seated. Going to have hand sanitizer in different areas of the room. Providing pre-packaged drinks. Looking at having servers at the buffet. Am still having a wedding cake, but having cupcakes separate from the wedding cake. Am even considering a smaller wedding cake so there will be more cupcakes.

View Quoted Comment I feel the same way.

I live in NJ. To be specific, I live in the second hardest hit county in NJ, directly across from Manhattan. I know numerous people who have battled COVID, but, through some miracle, no one who has died from it.

...It's going to get worse. NJ may currently be on track to contain, but we still haven't figured out schooling, indoor dining, or entertainment. (The latter two are my income sources! Yay!) It's just that borders don't stop air-borne viruses.

There are some promising vaccines, but I don't see the US getting them until next year.

I'm sorry.

With the flu coming, I don't have high hopes for the winter. It will be very hard to track, control, and prevent outbreaks woth a similar disease going around. I would say don't spend any more money planning for December

I'd say a lot depends on what precautions are available to you, and what your guests are willing to do to support you in keeping each other (and you!) safe. The fact that it seems your friends and family may not be taking it seriously is the most worrying. Sadly, when things go well then that's the result.
Our wedding is September in VA and I'm incredibly nervous. The reception is indoors and it's looking like the count might be as high as 90 - we have 65 confirmed yes with two weeks left.
We're requiring masks, spacing tables, etc. We have also put out that if ppl can get tested we really encourage that - in our area it's more available, and we've been able to be tested and plan to do so again in early September.Good luck - I hope you make the best decision for you!

View Quoted Comment Yes. All mine outside this weekend. I told ppl everything will be spaced and wear a mask.

If you can, postpone it a year. If you cannot, reduce your guestlist, provide masks, antibacterial gel, seats guests spaced out, don't display dessert etc

Unfortunately no, and due to your location it would be too cold to hold an outdoor wedding. For health and safety sake, I’d hold off on any bigger celebrations until the end of 2021, when a vaccine is estimated to become widely available