Covid - ridiculously stressed out

View Quoted Comment There are so many inaccuracies in this that I don’t even know where to start, so I’ll just leave it at this - I am not the one who is not understanding how the vaccines work.

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I'm so happy to hear that!! Your day will be perfect

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Hi Sydney!! Yes - the wedding went beautifully. It was indoors, in Rhode Island, and we had 145 attendees, not including vendors or staff. Nobody got sick. I'm not saying that this is reason to ignore the risks completely, but I will say it's reason to lay any wedding anxieties to rest RE: COVID, because at this point everyone is well aware of the risks, and there's a vaccine in place to protect those who want it. Wedding planning is stressful enough as is! I think there's definitely something to be said for having the majority of guests vaccinated at this point. I was terrified of breakthrough cases, but they're still super rare, and we're so grateful that a week and a half later everyone is healthy. I think my cousin who brought her baby also felt this way, and she and her husband are doctors. Sure, there's a risk, but if we're going to be in this COVID up and down pattern for a while, we can be as safe as possible, but we do still need to live our lives!!

On the flip side, we have friends getting married in October, and we have every intention of going, no matter the situation, because we know we're protected by the vaccine. And for those who are not vaccinated - they also know the risk, and nothing will stop them from doing what they want to do in any case. Your wedding day will be wonderful.

Omg I’m sitting here thinking the same thing, first my friend hairdresser that’s doing my hair backs out now some of the wedding party waiting for the shut down.
It’s so hard to plan for fall wedding in this world
So yeah I totally hear you❤️

We have a fall wedding planned and as guidelines and requirements in our community and workplaces begin to change on a daily basis, I'm becoming more and more concerned. I'm hopeful that the venue we selected will not implement any of these requirements. We selected a hall that we liked based on the rustic theme of our wedding. The venue can accommodate up to 350/400 and we're planning for about 150 or less, so we're already within a 50% capacity if they were to go back to that. I too am vaccinated and my fiancée and his family are not (and are pretty much totally against it at the moment.) We're already having issues with my FMIL possibly not coming (with no truly valid reason) and this new variant has given her another excuse. My poor FH is so stressed over it.

As for our other guests I put this information under a Q&A section on our website:
Unless the requirements change prior to our wedding, we will not be requiring our guests to wear masks. Those who wish to wear them are more than welcome to do so.

Our guest list is already within the 50% capacity rate for our venue. We will have plenty of room to spread the tables out.

If you are feeling ill, we kindly ask that you not attend for the safety of us and the other guests.

Should state requirements/mandates change prior to our wedding day, you will find updated information here.

I will not subject my guests to proving they have been vaccinated. While I chose to do so, I believe it should be everyone's individual choice. It's none of my business. If we absolutely have to do temperature checks at the door because the reception or ceremony venues require it, I'll do it. But otherwise, I am trusting that our guests will make informed decisions based on their individual circumstances.

View Quoted Comment Exactly, Aimee! Hoping our venue doesn’t do any restrictions or requirements, but I suppose we will cross that bridge if/when we get there! I’m not sure of the capacity, but we will have 100 people at the most I think!

View Quoted Comment This is not scientifically accurate. The only reason we still have the pandemic is because of unvaccinated people who are driving infections. This is not a my body my choice issue. It’s a public health issue. Vaccine mandates are what got rid of polio and measles!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! This is great to hear!

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I agree with you totally! I'm October 15th (postponed from the 16th last year) and very worried. I know that I have a few guests that are not vaccinated. I don't have a problem with their choice unless it affects others which in this case it can. Mind me asking, are you putting something regarding unvaccinated guests wearing masks in your invite? I'm trying to decide how to go about this. Out of 145 guests I believe there is only about 10 unvaccinated.

View Quoted Comment This is exactly how I feel. My wedding is this coming Saturday and I’m experiencing the same texts, calls, cancellations... my anxiety is unreal. And I’m struggling to figure out how I will be able to enjoy this very expensive wedding I’ve planned the past two years. How did your reception go? Everyone stay healthy?

View Quoted Comment I included a separate card in my invitation suite with some brief info on covid protocols and prompting guests to look at our wedding website for more info on our covid protocols. We have a dedicated tab for this, which outlines protocols for vaccinated and unvaccinated guests. In addition to providing proof of a negative test within 72 hours of the wedding, unvaccinated guests are asked to wear a mask at all times except for eating and drinking. We also said that if guests feel uncomfortable with these requirements, we understand if they choose not to celebrate with us that day. Hope this helps!

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Hi Wedding twin! I've tried to let it go for some time now as most of my side would have flown in. Although I can convince myself that all I need is my FH and 2 witnesses, the annoyance of the money spent is real. At least I saved $15k since the first declines a month ago, and my venue was flexible about final headcount. Maybe you can livestream for all those who cannot attend. All will be well.

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I completely understand - that’s exactly what it was like. We also had a number of covid related drops last minute. If it helps at all, our wedding was wonderful, no one is sick now, and we have some beautiful memories. It’s easy to fall down the anxiety spiral, but what I will say is that I wasn’t really excited until 24 hours before, and I do wish I could do that over. In hindsight, I should have considered that anything that might happen is completely out of my own control, and the risk of me or my husband personally getting COVID is still extremely rare, because we’re vaccinated. The risk of that at this point is similar to the risk of any other rare thing that could possibly happen, which is still super unlikely but easy to fixate on. The best thing you can do at this point is relax, have a wine and a bath and get ready for the wonderful wedding weekend you’ll have soon. It will be so beautiful and will go on no matter what!!!

We're having our wedding in November this year and it felt fine towards the beginning of the year since vaccinations were rolling out.. but with the variant running rampant, we're only really nervous about family in other states not being able to come down. I'm almost positive 100% of us are vaccinated aside from the younger kiddos, but some people just might not feel comfortable, especially if they have kids who aren't able to be vaccinated. They would have to ride in a plane to come down and not everyone wears their masks when they're supposed to (and I am going to assume a lot of them aren't even vaccinated.) Texas is coming up on Stage 5 if it isn't already there, so..

We aren't requiring anyone to wear a mask unless they want to. Our venue is 'indoors' but it's kind of like an open covered patio, if that makes sense. The only time anyone would ever be enclosed between walls would be in the lobby area, mainly for guest book signing, finding where people sit, plus the bride and groom rooms.. everywhere else is ventilated. The venue is also higher up (altitude wise) on a hill, so it'll be pretty breezy in the reception area. The venue staff is vaccinated as far as I know and if they aren't, they'll probably be required to wear a mask and I'm assuming the photographer, videographer, DJ, and catering/serving people will be wearing masks as well.

Just to be on the safer side, we'll probably be having sanitizing bottles at the tables and I'm sure the venue will have sanitizer around the venue for people to use.

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Are you serious? Turn off CNN and check the research yourself. The info cited above is 100% accurate. The narrative we have been fed for the past 18 months is as holey as swiss cheese. It just doesn't hold up to scrutiny.

Ask yourself these questions: • Both the vaccinated and unvaccinated are spreading the virus, so why are only the unvaccinated required to submit to testing?
• Scientists now find that the previously infected have equal or better protection than those who received the vaccines and that getting the vax does nothing to boost their immunity. So why should those with antibodies get the vax?
• The Delta variant that is circulating now is not as deadly as last year's virus. Most people who get it will only have typical cold symptoms for about a week. Who needs a vax for that? And afterwards, they will have antibodies and natural immunity anyway.
• In the U.S., 67% of all adults have been fully vaccinated. Considering that millions got infected and now have natural immunity, that means the 70-85% goal has been reached. WHY IS THE GOVERNMENT NOT COUNTING THE ESTIMATED 10-30% OF AMERICANS WHO HAVE NATURAL IMMUNITY FROM PREVIOUS INFECTION?
• 90% of the most vulnerable population, those over age 75, have been vaccinated. Over 80% aged 65-74 have been vaccinated. The lagging groups are those under age 40, primarily those under age 18 who are at the least risk. So why are we still pushing for more vaccines when we have more than likely achieved, even surpassed, herd immunity?
• Did you know that the federal government sets a 70% goal for annual flu vaccinations but only 40-45% of the population gets the shot? Nor does the federal government mandate masks or vaccinations for the flu, which kills far more children than covid has.
• Did you know that the federal government has never imposed a national vaccine mandate? Not even for smallpox or polio. That's because they can't under the Constitution. Only state and local authorities have that power - within reason - to be used sparingly.
So...if you want to get the vaccine, do it. If you want to wear a mask, do it. But don't expect everyone else to acquiesce to your preferences. This virus isn't going away anytime soon. And like most any virus, it is airborne. Masks might make you feel safer, but they don't offer much protection against airborne illness. Vaccines might make you feel more comfortable, but they don't prevent infection; they lessen its severity. The onus is on you to protect yourself should you feel the need. At this point, those who don't feel safe or comfortable in public should restrict themselves not the other way around. It's time to get back to normal.

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I would invite you to turn off Fox News and find some real sources of information. I usually don't comment but this way too full of misinformation. We don't have smallpox or polio now because of vaccines, just to correct one point you made.

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The information did NOT come from Fox News, it came from other news outlets including U.S. News and World Report, Israel National News, the White House, and other independent sources that verified its accuracy as well as the scientific community including CIDRAP, the CDC, and the WHO. Are those good enough sources for you?

· Vaccines downgrade the infection to a mild seasonal virus that we must learn to live with for years to come. Those who choose not to get vaccinated pose no public health threat to those already immune.

· Some 80% to 85% of American adults are immune to the virus: More than 70% of adults 30 and older have received at least one vaccine dose and, of those who haven’t, roughly half have natural immunity from prior infection.

· Natural immunity is effective and going strong because the body develops antibodies to the entire surface of the virus, not just a spike protein constructed from a vaccine. The power of natural immunity was recently affirmed in an Israeli study, which found a 6.7 times greater level of protection among those with natural immunity vs. those with vaccinated immunity. Link to the report here: https://www.israelnationalnews.com/News/News.aspx/309762

· Requiring the vaccine in people who are already immune with natural immunity has no scientific support. A Cleveland Clinic study found that vaccinating people with natural immunity did not add to their level of protection.

· Roughly a third to half of Americans who are unvaccinated have natural immunity, based on an analysis of California residents.

· The COVID-19 death risk is clustered among kids with a comorbid condition, like obesity. Of the 330+ COVID-19 deaths in kids under age 25, data suggests that most or nearly all had a pre-existing condition. But the risk of hospitalization after the second vaccine dose due to myocarditis, or inflammation of the heart muscle, is about 50 per million in that same age group. It may be that the standard two-dose regimen is a dose too high for young people and is inducing a strong inflammatory response causing these complications.

· There is no comparison between smallpox and covid. Smallpox is estimated to have killed up to 300 million people in the 20th century and around 500 million people in the last 100 years of its existence. Inoculation appears to have started in China around the1500s. A modern vaccine was introduced in 1796, and in 1967, the WHO intensified efforts to eliminate the disease. The last known case was in Somalia in 1977. All told, it took almost 500 years to eradicate this disease.

· There is no comparison between polio and covid vaccines. It took 25 years to eradicate polio in the USA (****), but the disease still exists in Asia and Africa and is endemic in Afghanistan and Pakistan today. Moreover, you can't eradicate covid since it's a seasonal virus - a strong cold virus - that is continually mutating. The shots are not true vaccines as they don't provide lifetime immunity, they just lessen the severity of illness if you contract it. They work the same way as flu shots, and you will need to keep getting them periodically maybe even every year.

View Quoted Comment Natural infection vs vaccination: Which gives more protection?

An Israeli study found that nearly 40% of new COVID patients were vaccinated - compared to just 1% who had been infected previously.

https://www.israelnationalnews.com/News/News.aspx/309762

View Quoted Comment Yep, people like you are the reason we still have the pandemic raging.

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Unvaccinated do pose a threat. They are the pool in which the virus mutates ie the pool of wild type illness.

You're the one that brought up smallpox and it was eradicated with a vaccine.

Polio exists elsewhere in the world because of vaccine distribution problems.

Covid may end up a disease in which we need to take an annual dose of vaccine, like influenza. We don't know what form that will take in the future. HOWEVER, the less Covid in a population, the less mutation.

The vaccines are indeed vaccines, but the mRNA types initiate production of spike proteins within the body, which primes the immune system against that protein.

I'm getting my information from medical journals and Cochrane reviews. Also from my medical training.