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Covid Brides: Dress Regret?

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Chrysta, on January 14, 2021 at 12:26 PM

Well, it’s official... we have postponed our wedding for the second time. We went from a two-year engagement in 2020 to a three-year engagement in 2021, and now it will be a four-year engagement with us getting married in 2022 🤦🏼‍♀️😩 I know it was the right/safest decision for us to make. I have heard back from all but 2 of our vendors, and so far everyone has been incredibly understanding and accommodating (crossing my fingers on these last two!🤞🏻)
There is just one thing worrying me... my dress. For one, I’m afraid it won’t fit properly. Two years is a long time! I’ve recently started a much healthier lifestyle and as a result I have been seeing results on the scale. I would absolutely love to be way smaller in 2 years, but that would mean my dress will no longer work (due to the design, it can only be taken in 1 size, MAYBE 2 max). On the flipside, I could totally fail at this new healthy lifestyle and end up gaining weight! 😂 in which case, again my dress doesn’t work because it cannot be let out at all. I’m also worried that I won’t like my dress by the time our wedding finally rolls around. I’ve had it for some time now (since we keep having to postpone). As of now I am still absolutely in love with it, but I’m afraid after another two years I may not feel the same way. Has anyone who’s had to postpone gone through this? Or, if you purchased your dressed years in advance, did you still love it when it finally came time to wear it? Any dress regrets?

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Jasmine · on January 14, 2021 at 3:38 PM
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Oh man Chrysta! So sorry to hear that. I've been dying to see your event finally come together. I'm sure your dress will still look amazing but since it'll be awhile, maybe just keep an eye out and try it on every couple months or so to see if you're still in love with it. If not, when the time comes closer, scoop up another dress. I wouldn't get rid of it just yet. Since we recently postponed until further notice, I'm also checking to see if this year is still possible. If not, here's to hoping for Jan 2022. I'd really hate to postpone our honeymoon for a 3rd time .
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Chrysta · on January 14, 2021 at 4:15 PM
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Yes!! I was a little disappointed with the first reschedule, but was happy for the additional year to save more money, add things that we wanted, tweak anything we needed, etc. But adding a third year?.... no ma’am. Not so fun. Now we’ve gone from “advantageous extra time”, to just twiddling our thumbs. I think I may end up just taking a break completely from anything wedding related for the next year (aside from saving money). I just know any decisions I make during that time I will probably rethink, change my mind on, etc. and just end up spending three times the amount of money 🤦🏼‍♀️ Plus, I think people who continue planning for years end up burnt out and not excited about things anymore- they just want it to be “done & over with”. I definitely don’t want to feel that way about my wedding! And I am positive picking up planning after a long break will make it super exciting again! The same probably holds true with your dress. Maybe just wait until you are about a year out before trying it on again. See if you get all the feels at that time. If not, then you have an entire year to find something different!
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Stacey · on January 14, 2021 at 4:15 PM
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Awww Chrysta (& Yasmine too!), I am so sorry to see that you are the victim of COVID yet again. But I love that as a couple you know exactly what you want, and are willing to do whatever it takes to make sure you have the experience you dream of. Here's hoping the time passes quickly...think how much "celebrating" your guests will have saved up inside and ready to unleash by then! It will be epic! Lol
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Chrysta · on January 14, 2021 at 4:17 PM
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I hear ya. This pandemic has taken a lot of twists and turns! That’s why we pushed ours out until the end of 2022. I figure, if we are still dealing with mask mandates, social distancing, lockdowns, etc. 2.5 years after the pandemic started, then we are in serious trouble and we might as well give up trying to plan for things to be normal again.
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Chrysta · on January 14, 2021 at 4:22 PM
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Thanks love! 💕 I am so sorry yours was rescheduled again too! I know you’ve had a ton of bumps in the road with this wedding planning process. I have to say though, I am absolutely loving all the changes you made to finally arrive at the final vision for your day! Cannot wait to see pictures!! 2022 is going to be the year weddings return!! 🤘🏻

Definitely not looking to get rid of my dress. I am still totally in love with it! Hopefully I still feel the same way in 2 years! 🤞🏻
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Chrysta · on January 14, 2021 at 4:25 PM
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Thank you so much Stacey!! 💕 Reading this actually really brightened my spirits! It’s so easy to get caught up in the disappointment and worry when it comes to rescheduling., but you just reminded me of all the positive reasons for it! And reading that last sentence literally made me smile... I immediately got the mental image of my friends letting loose on the streets of New Orleans 😂😂
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Future Mrs.Randolph · on January 14, 2021 at 4:38 PM
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I'm sorry to hear about your wedding I was hoping that November 2021 would be the year for you. I hope November 2022 is the year for you and as well as February 2022 for me. Although I'm starting to get a little nervous about mine I'm going to hold to hope we will be able to celebrate in some way.

For your dress I would try to not look at any other dresses and like PP said maybe try it on a few times to make sure you still love it. If you no longer like even without looking at other dresses it's okay to look at something you'll love again.
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Chrysta · on January 14, 2021 at 5:01 PM
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Thank you so much! To be honest, I think the latter part of 2021/beginning of 2022 will be a lot better in terms of wedding restrictions. The only reason we chose to postpone is because we are having a destination wedding, which relies heavily upon restaurants, bars, attractions, entertainment outside of the wedding venue; which likely will not be back to normal by then. If we were just having a local wedding/reception we never would have postponed. I definitely think there’s a good chance your wedding will happen next February!
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Future Mrs.Randolph · on January 14, 2021 at 5:31 PM
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Thanks for your kind words and uplifting others with positivity, even though you didn't get the outcome you may have wanted. This makes me feel little better!!!
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Jasmine · on January 14, 2021 at 6:08 PM
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Thanks! We're pretty excited but held down cause of having to postpone. We're gonna make it through girl! One way or another.
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Ane · on January 14, 2021 at 10:35 PM
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Chrysta, just wanted to say that I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with now another postponement! Your posts are so uplifting and fun to read and your wedding seems like it will be an amazing time! While I’m not a 2020 Covid bride, I’m also an early “postponer”—we made the call to postpone our August 2021 wedding to August 2022 in September. We will have had a 3 year engagement by then. Although we’re having a local wedding, we realized that this will go on longer than anyone initially thought. And like you, I just can’t imagine our wedding without dancing and mingling and everyone out having a good time together. It’s such a special (and expensive!) day so I think it’s worthwhile to wait for the day that we can all safely celebrate again! Cheers to 2022 and keeping our spirits up until then!

*Also, like others have said, I think you can try your dress on at the one year mark or shortly after and see how you feel! If you don’t love it, you can always try to resell it online and get a new one if it’s in your budget! So try not to stress about it—if that’s even possible
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Chrysta · on January 14, 2021 at 10:37 PM
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We got this!!
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Mrs.a · on January 15, 2021 at 9:27 AM
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Girl! Don’t you EVEN go looking at dresses again lol I’m worried too, as our date was postponed and will be a year later, although my weight has been consistent. I get it out of the closet every now and again to make sure it still fits and just to see it to feel better.
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Lisa · on January 15, 2021 at 9:41 AM
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All great points!! Especially the one about spending way more than planned due to too much time, things definitely add up 😬 the planning break sounds like a good idea too! You definitely don't want to burn out. I'm sure your wedding excitement will be there when you start planning again! And I agree with you, I need to suspend my dress decision until around a year out. Best wishes!
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Chrysta · on January 15, 2021 at 1:39 PM
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Ane thank you so much for your kind words! It made my morning 💕 I think y’all were really smart to postpone early on- I have a feeling a lot of people are going to be rescheduling to 2022. It’s a good thing you got your date locked in already! I know it’s a long wait, but it’s totally worth it to have the wedding of your dreams!!
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Chrysta · on January 15, 2021 at 1:53 PM
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LOL!!! I know, right?! As of now, I am still completely smitten with it, and couldn’t imagine wearing another dress. I’m just afraid I won’t feel that way after another two years. And now I have TWO of them! So if I don’t love it, I am out two dresses instead of one 😱😩 Or, possibly even more horrifying... what if I do still love it in two years, but neither of them fit and I have to buy a THIRD one?! 🤦🏼‍♀️
This Covid crap is really for the birds!! 😡
I’m so sorry you guys have had to postpone again ☹️ But I’m glad you are doing what’s best and safest for you and your guests. 2022 is going to be our year!!! 🤘🏻
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Mrs.a · on January 15, 2021 at 5:44 PM
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We’re considering postponing to fall but idk if that will be long enough, uggggghhhh lol but hey, it doesn’t change anything else. I hope to god my dress still fits when it’s time that I can wear it.
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Yasmine · on January 15, 2021 at 8:13 PM
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I agree with that completely. I know it'll be awhile before we're ever considered "normal" again unfortunately
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Kris · on January 16, 2021 at 1:27 PM
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I totally get it. I love my dress, but I've only tried it on once since I bought it in Nov 2019, so I'm hoping I'll still love it as much as I did before at our July 2021 date. Originially Sept 26, then Feb 27, now July 31.
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