Janet
Just Said Yes May 2020

Covid-19 weddings

Janet, on March 24, 2020 at 3:54 AM Posted in California Planning 0 14
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My wedding is on 5/9/20 I had everything ready. But this virus is ruining everything. I am so stressed out I don’t want to postpone it because they don’t have many dates available and it doesn’t work out because of our jobs. I praying everyday so this can stop! But I have no idea what to do? Any one else panicking? I need some advice should I keep for May 9 and hope it stops or postpone it?

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Latest activity by Renee, on April 6, 2020 at 11:25 AM
  • Nicole
    Master September 2020
    Nicole ·
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    I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. We have a community hub of all our COVID-19 information, including cancellation guides, monthly planning posts, and advice on how to get additional support. I hope it helps you navigate this difficult time!

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  • Ana
    Savvy September 2020
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    Hey girl! My wedding is May16. I am also getting so much anxiety as time gets closer. My fiancé and I have talked about other dates we would be okay with IF things don't get better. But before that...We are making the executive decision 1 month prior to our wedding to decide if we will be postponing or keeping out date, we also will need to contact our vendors to make sure they are still on board and okay with showing up the day of. WE STILL HAVE TIME! its so unfortunate this is out of our control Smiley sad

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  • W
    Just Said Yes August 2021
    wendy ·
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    I would postpone. There is so much anxiety and stress by keeping the date with all the uncertainty this health crises is creating. The ramifications are many to consider: the economy; health/wellness of the friends/family invited; vendors still available. So many moving parts. Postponing would give me more calm that the constant what ifs. I wish you all well, sending you a blessing.

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  • Nicole
    Beginner October 2022
    Nicole ·
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    I'm so sorry this is happening to you too! My wedding is scheduled for 5/23 and we are also waiting one month prior to make an executive decision. I am hoping in April things will have calmed down so that we all can have our dream weddings. Don't lose faith!

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  • S
    Dedicated September 2020
    Sarah ·
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    I was another May bride, I know just how you feel! We ended up postponing ours. It just wasn’t worth the risk, we would hate to have any of our guest fall ill because of our wedding. If you absolutely hate the idea of postponing, you could elope and have a bigger anniversary party next year? Having a large social gathering during this pandemic would be a recipe for disaster though, I hope you can come to a responsible choice!
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  • Natalie
    Devoted July 2021
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    I think its naive to assume anything at this point. I understand we must keep hope, but we must also be realistic and prepare for the worst case scenario (postponement.) I am right here with you, except I am having to sort this out sooner.

    Our wedding is planned for June 13, 2020 and while that seems far enough out to not have to postpone - with all the uncertainty and information rapidly changing on a daily basis, I can't help but be overwhelmed with stress and anxiety. I've already had to cancel by bridal shower and am sure my bach is out of the question at this point too.

    Here in CA, we have a "Shelter in Place" ordinance in effect through April 19th with the possibility of that extending to May if our situation here does not improve. Our venue has had to cancel and postpone weddings that were planned through April. My heart ACHES for those couples.

    We are hoping late April will offer more clarity for the future of 2020, however, what everyone needs to understand (myself included) is that even if things "calm down" soon, it doesn't mean people will be out of danger while in close proximity to one another. We never expect to have to make such a heartbreaking decision, however, it is not nearly as heartbreaking as the idea of putting our loved ones at risk.

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  • Dana
    Dedicated May 2020
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    I'm another May 9th bride (or used to be). We're also at home, with only essential businesses open and had restrictions on the number people at gatherings before the state governments put an end to those gatherings completely for the time being

    I know it's hard to hear, and so disappointing after all the planning, but I think it might be better for you to look at rescheduling it. Maybe the venue can put a hold on a date for you if you don't want to make an official decision yet? You said there's limited dates available still, but as more April and May brides have to or choose to reschedule those dates might get taken.

    At first I was sure that we'd be able to have our wedding as planned still, but May 9th is right outside of the 8 weeks the CDC recommended when things started to get really bad. I'm not sure what the current recommendation is but it might be past May 9th now. And I didn't want to risk having bad memories of the wedding in case anyone became sick or worse as a guest at our wedding or reception. I know that might seem like worst case scenario, but I want this to be a happy day for me.

    Another option that you could consider, since you said other dates won't work with your job, is to have a small intimate wedding this year, and then a celebration of your marriage around the same time next year (basically a delayed reception). I'm sure many are looking at that option too with the coronavirus impacting us like this


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  • Breanna
    Beginner April 2021
    Breanna ·
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    I hope you can keep your date. I just had mine taken away today.. it sucks.

    But at least we all have each other for support Smiley heart

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  • Natalie
    Devoted July 2021
    Natalie ·
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    Hi there, so sorry you are going through this too, you're not alone! I've just posted a lengthy message regarding this issue. I think it would really help you to read it.

    https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/june-couples-postponing-due-to-covid-19-encouragement/e2e6a03e5635af33.html

    All the best,

    Natalie

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  • Alli
    Devoted October 2020
    Alli ·
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    My date is/was May 9th also! I have been in a state of anxiety the last few weeks trying to figure out what to do. With the new date of April 30th for limitations on large gatherings - we've gone ahead and cancelled ours officially as of last night. I'd gotten to the point of not even being excited for it anymore because I was so stressed about the what-ifs, but honestly I feel 1000% times better knowing we will have the perfect day once this is all over!

    I would definitely reach out to all of your vendors at the very least and just see what they are suggesting.

    Best of luck in whatever you decide to do! Smiley heart

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  • Kerri
    Savvy April 2022
    Kerri ·
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    I postponed mine from the original date of June 20th. I moved it to late September, however I am still going to do a small wedding just the pastor and witnesses on April 11th. I think that there are a couple of things you can do:

    1. you can keep the date and have a very small wedding. (depending on where you live the limits of how many people are allowed are different. Here in Wisconsin we can have no more than 10 people gather at one time.)

    2. You can have that small wedding and postpone the big one for a later date.

    3. you can have the small wedding and just have a reception at a later date.

    4. You can postpone altogether

    I hope you can make the best decision for you and your FH! you are not alone and if you need to talk you can shoot me a email. I know what you are going through. I cried for a good week when we had to postpone our date. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

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  • Candice
    Dedicated July 2020
    Candice ·
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    First, I'm so sorry this is happening to you/us. It is TERRIBLE! Smiley sad . We had our wedding set for May 24th and moved it to July 25th, and I'm worried about that date. As difficult and sad as it is....I'm thinking you are going to need to move it as quickly as you can. Many are going ahead and getting married on their scheduled dates and then moving the big party/reception to another time. Best of luck to you as you navigate these choppy waters. Stay safe.

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  • Daniela
    Dedicated August 2020
    Daniela ·
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    It really is stressful and I feel for everyone here. Our wedding was supposed to be May 30th and we postponed to August 22 - we are disappointed but also honestly relieved. I feel like waiting to postpone is just delaying the inevitable. I would suggest at least developing a backup plan - talk to your vendors, your venue, your job, etc. Changing our wedding to the new date was easier than we thought it would be, and our guests were all relieved when we moved it. Good luck Smiley kiss

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  • Renee
    Super June 2020
    Renee ·
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    Personally.... panic, worry, frustration, sad, depresses, anxiety all seem to be feeling like 1 emotion right now. I am June 7th. We have a back up plan but it is just not what we hoped for. Good luck girl! What ever you decide will be the right decision for you, your fiance and family!

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