Honestly, I didn't think I'd ever really need to post a rant or a rave on these forums. Typically, I come here to try and give suggestions to smooth out tiffs between family and friends. Alas, here I am with my first really wedding rant.
My fiance and I got engaged in April. Within a week of the engagement, we announced our date. The date was easy for us to pick, as it was one that carried some personal significance for us. A few months go by and my cousin gets engaged. I thought nothing of it other than the normal congratulations and general excitement for another bride in the family. My fiance and I opted for a long engagement (about 1 and a half years), so we thought my cousin's wedding would likely be before it or sometime after it. However, just this week, I get word from my grandma that she received my cousin's save the date and guess what - it's the same weekend. Normally, it wouldn't be an issue, since they're not the exact same day except that my cousin is having her wedding halfway across the country, leaving little to no travel time. To top all this off, my grandma asks if I can just reschedule my wedding. I told her that I couldn't because it was an important date AND we've booked and paid deposits on vendors and venues. She said the same was true for my cousin but I should be the one to change it since she sent out the save the dates first (a whole year in advance of the wedding).
Naturally, I was pretty upset. I even called my fiance to make sure I wasn't overreacting or going bridezilla. At any rate, we made it clear that we weren't changing our date. But I am worried that my grandparents won't be at my wedding. I'm also worried that she's going to book other prewedding events on top of mine. There is no way she didn't know my date. We posted it on Facebook, our wedding website, even brought it up at family gatherings, etc. She's even come to me for advice and tips on planning! And with the whole ordeal of sending out save the dates an entire year in advance, I'm pretty certain she did that just get the jump on me and try to get family to commit to her wedding first.
I'm not crazy - this is messed up, right?