Cousin attending bachelorette but not wedding?!

PU, change your title to *UPDATED* people generally will keep responding if you don't because they only skim read all of the comments.

Also change your avatar. It doesn't have to be a picture of you but any kind of pic other than the double rings is great.

I know this is late (sorry work got in the way) but I didn't want to start a thread just for this. I have a question, having never been to a bach and since I'm not having a bach.. who pays? Like when everyone goes out and gets drunk, is everyone responsible for their own tab, does the bride generally treat or what? Just curious as this thread had me thinking about it.

Closed- ha. that's not how this works.

You're wrong not to ask her what her plans are. What's the big deal?

Closed?

Hilarious

@Boozy - every bachelorette party I've been to, each guest paid for her own drinks and everyone chipped in to cover the bride.

@Boozy: I think its always a nice gesture to cover a round or something but its definitely not a necessity

I was horrified to think we'd become able to close threads. So much joy would have been lost...

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I really don't see why it's "rude" or "tacky" to ask her why she can't come to the wedding. If someone is close enough to you that she is coming to your bachelorette, it shouldn't be weird to ask why she can't make it to your wedding! Honestly, I can totally see why you would be annoyed by the fact that she only wants to come to the event that is more fun for her. That being said, don't let her actions take away from your party!

It's "closed" also nurses have a very difficult time getting out of shifts. Like they have to find someone willing to take their shifts.

Hearts: to me its rude for someone to get my "No" RSVP and follow it up with "oh but you can come to XX?! Oh ok! I guess my wedding isn't as important" You're right, the wedding isn't as important.

No one has a right to question another adult why they choose to accept or decline any invitation. Its not their business.

If this cousin chooses to accept one invitation and not the other that is her choice. For the bride to question it, come up with theories as to why, or decide that the decision is not one she (bride) would have made if roles were reversed is incredibly self-centered. The roles are not reversed and bride does not know or need to know the reasoning. The only thing any host is ever entitled to is an accurate guest count. In this instance the cousin is giving that to the best she can at the moment.

Lol love all the memes- cousin invited herself to the bachelorette- she is welcome to come- just thought it was kinda weird that she was "trying to make" the wedding but made it a point to invite herself to the bachelorette. Who knows why she is doing what she is doing and honestly it doesn't matter. I'm not butt hurt I just found her actions odd. I was assuming and its whatever- like I said, we aren't that close so if she doesn't come, oh well...just wanted an outside opinion on it to see if my feelings were valid.

"Closed" welp this is a first

PU, Im glad you seem like you are taking this in stride. Stick around! One thing you can always count on around here are our honest opinions.

Is there a reason why she might not be able to make it to the wedding, it might be a completely legit reason.

What is rude is inviting someone to a bachelorette or shower, and not inviting that person to the wedding - that's happened to me before (twice!) and I thought it was odd.

Lol this is getting fun!

Well I guess you can't close it as people have stated, and people are still commenting so let them- reopened and all

Is good with the world