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Courthouse ceremony -can i book a venue later do i use the word "wedding"

Andrea, on January 24, 2021 at 8:08 PM Posted in Planning 0 14

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So I was wondering

I was going to do maybe a courthouse ceremony and then do the reception later on, but my dad keeps saying, "Don't use the word wedding. When we finally do the reception after you two are married, they'll jack the price up."

But it's like I'm going to wear a wedding dress to that, at least that's how I see it.

I also know many people who got married at a courthouse and plan to do a giant wedding later on. Do you ask another officiant to do it? I'm a little unsure about the logistics to explain you already have been married and want an officiant at the reception to have a mini ceremony for people who didn't get to be at the courthouse?

We haven't officially planned a date yet because I'm finishing up graduate school this semester.

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Latest activity by Andrea, on January 25, 2021 at 4:18 PM

Champion July 2019
Veronica · on January 24, 2021 at 8:13 PM
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You need to be honest. If they find out you lied, then they could not only charge you what they should have charged you to begin with, but extra fees or shut down your event.
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Savvy November 2022
Andrea · on January 24, 2021 at 8:15 PM
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Ah gotchia yeah that makes sense I mean I haven't booked anything yet anyway I haven't even spoken to anyone yet but wanted to know what the protocol is and such.
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Veronica · on January 24, 2021 at 8:19 PM
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Also if you are already married, you can have anyone officiate the mini ceremony since you will already legally be married.
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Michelle · on January 24, 2021 at 8:21 PM
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It’s always best to be honest. You don’t have to say wedding but you could say a vow renewal.
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Lisa · on January 24, 2021 at 8:25 PM
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You could call it a vow renewal, celebration of marriage, or, if you're not planning to do the ceremony again, you could call it a wedding reception.
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Lisa · on January 24, 2021 at 8:27 PM
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I agree with Lisa.
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Michelle · on January 24, 2021 at 9:15 PM
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Be honest and tell then it's a vow renewal party. They will still charge you wedding prices though.
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Savvy November 2022
Andrea · on January 24, 2021 at 10:59 PM
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Thanks will do
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Mrs. Spring · on January 24, 2021 at 11:30 PM
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I agree with others. Honesty is the best policy in this situation.
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Meghan · on January 25, 2021 at 8:05 AM
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My fiancé’s friend had a ceremony for just immediate family. Then they had a wedding reception for everyone. They still referred to it as a wedding and it was beautiful. I thought it would feel weird not going to the ceremony but it wasn’t at all. It was also “them” too. It was very laid back on the beach with an open bar, live music, and plenty of food. It def felt like a wedding, even without the ceremony. Go with what feels right to you and your fiancé.
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(HAHA I also made a joke saying we should book everything as we’re celebrating my big 3-0 then have my fiancé pop out 🤣).
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Yasmine · on January 25, 2021 at 8:42 AM
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People honestly make a big deal out it for no reason. You can call it a wedding even though you're already married. If your guests have a problem with it then maybe they shouldn't be there lol. But I agree with your dad, they will definitely raise prices as weddings are more expensive.
My husband and I got married in October and our wedding was originally scheduled for March 2021. We've since had to postpone it, but we are still calling it a wedding because everything that will be done at a wedding will be done again.
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Savvy November 2022
Andrea · on January 25, 2021 at 4:11 PM
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Thanks that's good to know
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Andrea · on January 25, 2021 at 4:18 PM
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Gotchia makes a lot of sense thank you
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