Couples who didn’t eat?

My husband and I had no issues eating. We had a sweetheart table, and the staff served our table first. For the most part, guests left us alone while we ate each course and we would mingle in between courses.

I made sure to eat. Although, I really didn't get any candy from our candy bar or cake other than the small bite we got during cake cutting. Our venue was nice enough to give us two pieces though to take to our room and we saved the top layer to eat on our first anniversary.

We had no issues eating.

All of our friends that didn't get to eat, or were able to just have a few bites, said it was due to them not scheduling a time for them to eat together. They were all so busy trying to see every guest and be all over the place that they didn't have a chance to sit down and actually eat their meal. If there was one piece of advice that they stressed, it was to make sure we make time for us to eat together.

FBIL and his wife did something at their wedding that we plan on doing, which is going to eat together in a different room while their guests are getting their food and eating as well. They had a upper loft in the reception area that they slipped off to and ate together in silence, which I thought was really nice, and a sweet moment for them to unwind a little and relax. FH and I will be eating in the bridal suite and have allotted 20-25 min for this. Our DOC will come get us when the time is about up so we can go back and join our guests, and do table greetings.

I had no issues eating. We sat at our table, we were served first, and I enjoyed my food. Once we were done we went around from table to table greeting our guests.

We plan on sitting down and eating and only getting up after we’re done for our sunset footage with our videographer. We both agreed that the most important thing for us is to enjoy our wedding day. We aren’t going around to each table during dinner, because we plan on doing this during cocktail hour. We are sending our day of coordinator around during dinner to make sure everyone has everything and everything is OK.

I think when i hear that it's mostly cause they are so busy! i ate at mine but even then i didn't eat that much. i was more thirsty from all the talking to guests than hungry.

I think it's usually because they are busy saying hello to their guests. My FH already told me he is EATING and he doesn't care if he misses people during that time haha. We are having a sweetheart table, so one thing that was recommended to us was to put two chairs on the other side of the table while we ate and guests could come sit with us during the meal. I don't necessarily think we are going to do that, but it is a good idea for those who have a lot of guests and may not be able to greet them all.

I think most couples don’t eat due to the busy and strict timeline of events, plus mingling with guests. I got to eat but since I did an outfit change during the reception, that cut into my meal time so I didn’t get to finish.

We had no trouble finishing our meal, but also had a really small wedding so our experience may be different from others (it really was just like a nice dinner party).

But I have also been a catering server at hundreds of weddings and I have seen all variations. We would always make sure the couple is served first (whether buffet or plated) but after that, it's on them to set/enforce their own boundaries.

Some couples seem to get easily distracted and flit around from guest to guest instead of eating. Some try to eat and get approached by guests and then don't tell them to go away (to be polite, I get it), and the food sits there uneaten. The problem is, when people see guests talking to the couple, it only encourages more people to go up.

For anyone who isn't married yet, I think it makes sense to make a plan with your future spouse for how you will handle it and remember that it's not rude to say something like, "We need a few minutes to eat. Can we come find you when we're done?"

By the time we got to dinner we were starving and had no problem eating. We had a sweetheart table and people didn’t really bother us during dinner.

We had no issues eating. We had a sweetheart table and all guests were served at the same time

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This hits the nail on the head. Make and keep your own boundaries. Great advice!

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Good to know

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Sounds like a good plan

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Hmm sounds like not the best planning. Were they not able to mingle during cocktail hour or a receiving line?

Eating in another room is odd and I would feel like I was missing out on the rest of the party. But everyone is different

It was nerves for us.

I tried to eat. I bit into one piece of fruit and felt like I was going to puke! I am not emotional eater (any strong emotion kills my appetite) and I was far too excited.

Realized when we got to the hotel and came down from the adrenaline that holy crap, we were both starving! And there was plenty of food, so we should have asked for to-go boxes.

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Excellent advice

Idk why people always say this, we had plenty of time to eat hahaha. The only thing that was a bit rushed was hors douvres, since we did photos during our cocktail hour. We had asked them to put a plate of hors douvres on our sweetheart table for us to eat at the reception, but instead they brought them to us WHILE they were doing photos. I managed to inhale several of them while they were doing photos of my husband's side (LOL) but I don't even think my husband got any. So that was disappointing. BUT, we did have plenty of time for the meal. We had a sweetheart table and we sat down and ate when everyone else did. Some people did come over to talk to us but, we talked while we ate lol. It was also mostly just close family that did come over to say hi, most people respected our space at our table. I was stuffed by the end of our reception!

We couldn’t wait to eat since we took our photos as a couple during cocktail hour, and the meal was a priority for us! We were the center of the head table, and no one seemed to come up to bother us. I’m not sure if this was because guests were also eating or if it was because of Covid! As soon as we finished eating, we started mingling with tables and then were rushed to go cut cake, etc. I wish we would’ve been more brief in conversations with guests so we could’ve made it around to everyone before getting caught in lengthy conversations with some of the tables.