Couple's Shower

We plan on having a couples shower. It is going to be just a casual BBQ outside. We plan to play volleyball and have some other lawn games. I'm not a huge fan of the cheesy shower games, so I'm going to opt out of those if I can

My aunt is hosting a couples shower for us. It will just be a casual party with dinner, drinks and mingling. I don't think there will be any games. My friend recently had a couples shower and played a newlywed type game that wasn't terrible to sit through but I don't think we will be doing that.

I've been to a few. It's the same as a bridal shower, except your FH is there along with other MEN (sticks tongue out at kirackle), and possibly other FEMALES that you aren't necessarily close to.

It doesn't really matter where it's hosted, just as long as food and beverages are provided. The last one I went to was a bit fancy schmancy. It was at a restaurant, she had over 50 people, it was a 3-course meal with alcohol, and we played about 3-4 games. The bride/groom opened up gifts at the end. It was quite nice.

I will be having a couples shower, and it is pretty normal in my circle. It is very much like a cocktail party. We do not play any games. Most were unboxed where the gifts were displayed on a table that guests could look over while mingling.

@GymRat

It saddens me greatly when people use "female" as a noun. It is so dehumanizing. When used at the same time as "men" it is exceedingly degrading.

How is female degrading? It's simply referring to the sex of the person instead of their gender identity. I find it really fucking degrading that anyone would think the word female is degrading.

We just had one last week. My in laws catered in lunch, kids played adults mingled and we played games. There was about 50 ppl there. When it came time for gifts men pretty much stayed outside with kids while we were opening gifts.

Okay great!! thanks for the input ladies i totally love the idea of a couple's shower!! the only downside is that the invite list grows so quickly because every person, is really two people. and with my aunt wanting to have it at her house we got to capacity quick!!!! and then i was just in new york this weekend visiting family and a couple of my aunts mentioned wanting to maybe make their way out here for the shower too...... my mom's whole entire family lives on the east coast so having a seperate shower wouldn't really be plausible unless we went out to new york to do it... i really wish we could have the shower at a venue rather than at their house but i'm obviously in no position to make any requests, as we are more than touched that they even offered!!!! i asked my mom if she would talk to my aunts (these are my dad's sisters, and my parents are divorced but still close) and see if she would be able to help contribute, and possibly move the location else where? who knows, lots of details to figure out still

Holy fucking shit @kirackle. I was typing so fast and didn't even realize what I wrote, but goooooooot damn. You good, boo? YIKES.

I'm going to change it. Go look.

We threw my cousin and his fw a couples shower and she was an ungrateful twat about it- so they leave a bad taste in my mouth. Basically the guys abandoned the party for the bar, so there was really no point

I've been to one couples shower and had a blast! It was essentially just a big cookout in their friends backyard They didn't open gifts, and played 1 game - the popular version of the newlywed game. They sat back to back and answered questions about each other and we all saw if they answered them the same way!

I've never been to one, but I think it's a "know your crowd" sort of thing. H, my brothers, cousins, etc would have been bored to tears at my shower, lol.

@kirackle, WTF? How is using "female" as a noun degrading? Care to explain?

@FlightyFlutist

You seem inordinately overwrought and confused at my point. This has nothing to do with gender identity vs. sex. "Female" is a scientific term that refers to the sex of a species that is capable of producing children. The term "woman" refers specifically to human beings, while "female" could refer to any species and is thus dehumanizing. Also, when you use "female" as a noun, the subject that you're referring to is erased because it is an adjective. Sorry if my sadness at this usage becoming commonplace in our language offended you somehow.

@GymRat

I did not point it out to be rude to you. I commented because it is a troubling subconscious change that is becoming more and more common. I see that you also recognize that, or else you would not care about changing it.

@kirackle are you fucking kidding me right now? Yes, I'm offended. You're being ridiculous.

I don't have time to argue this point, but I'm sure plenty of others will do it for me. Grammar matters, but not to the point of feeling "degraded" by use of the word female as a noun. FFS.

I didn't care. I wanted to get you riled up. I failed miserably! grrrrr

Have you ever been to an adult toy store? They have stuff for females.

We are having our couples shower next weekend and I cant wait! We have a guest list of about 120 people and we are doing a crawfish boil. (South LA) We dont plan on playing any games but it will definitely be like a huge cocktail party. Congrats and good luck!!

My aunt is throwing a co-ed shower for us. Like others have said it will primarily be food, drinks, and mingling

@FB no we arent throwing ourselves a shower... my MOH is throwing it lol

I haven't been to one before but I would imagine its more like a BBQ, and instead of shower games it would be more like activities like cornhole, etc. that guys would be into. I think a couple's shower would miss out on a lot of the traditional shower elements to appeal to the men.

My FMIL threw us one. Good food and drinks. No games. Some people brought gifts, some didn't. It was really fun, and extra fun to have my FH there.

We had one. it was basically a cocktail party. it was so much fun. the host gave everyone the option to buy us booze for our home bar, since it was cocktail-y, which was also nice to make sure people didn't feel pressured to buy us huge gifts.