I’m getting married September 25 2021! Definitely have questions for all of you. Im having my engagement party November 16th. I already planned my bridal party and plan on telling them at the party , when you know you know right? Even though the wedding is two years away 😳
People told me the same thing. But I knew wayyyyy before I was engaged who I wanted in my bridal party. My cousin (MOH) who is like a sister to me, my FH's sister, and my best friend since childhood. This was the easiest decision for me to make and since I had so much time, I wanted them involved in the planning from the beginning. You have a date and that's, in my opinion, all you need to ask them.
I know it's a case-by-case basis, but to err on the side of caution, I'd wait until you're about 9-10 months out from the wedding. Working in the wedding industry, I've actually seen a lot of people select their wedding parties early (and tell them all) only to have some relationships deteriorate or change (moving far away which leads to limited contact, a big fight, drifting apart naturally due to life circumstances, etc.) and this causes further issues closer to the wedding, which is the last thing you need.
Even those who are incredibly confident in their relationships (even with their siblings) should wait.
Also, re: affording dresses and shoes--once your bridal party is all set, please ask each person privately what their budget is for those items, take the lowest number, and use that for your overall bridesmaids attire budget (if you're selecting their dresses/styles/etc.)
Im planning on asking mine at Christmas! I know some people say to wait but I want to give everyone a chance to be able to save money up for dresses/bachelorette/etc. Plus, 3/5 of my bridesmaids are family and 2 have been my friends for 10+ years so I’m not worried about it being a mistake in the future. I’m glad I’m not the only one asking soon!
I asked all mine right away, same thing everyone told me to wait but I couldn’t 1. I was too excited 2. I knew the people that I picked wouldn’t just up and walk out of my life they are staying for goooddd! Haha
Wedding twins!!! I'm so happy there's a thread for us (I just now found it...) I am so stuck on this issue. Like you I've also been told to wait, but the problem is my FH has more people in mind than me so we need to know the amount of bridesmaids so he can select his groomsmen. If it doesn't work out it doesn't work out, being symmetrical doesn't matter all that much to me. I have already asked 3 out of 5, going to ask the other two around Thanksgiving. We'll see what happens in two years.
We’re a 9/25/21 wedding too, can’t wait! I knew right away who my bridesmaids were going to be since they're all family members. We’re still planning our groomsmen but we’re close to narrowing it down. We have our venue, my dress, photographer, about to close on a caterer, and and a florist.
I wanted to get a head start so I could diy most of our decor, I’m making all the centerpieces, table runners, boutonnières and anything else i can think of along the way! 🙃
9/25/2021 me too. Already started booking and already said yes to my dress. We are asking the Bridal party this weekend as we got bridal party proposal stuff. Bottles of wine for the ladies and shot glasses for the groomsmen. They say 2021 is going to be jam packed with weddings because everyone that was supposed to get married this year have postponed until next year so I'm trying to get things done before everything is all booked up.