Tanayia
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Is the brides family suppose to pay for the wedding or is it the grooms family ?

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Latest activity by Holly, on February 25, 2020 at 11:50 AM
  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I assume that the families don’t pay unless they want to. My husband and I paid for our own wedding equally
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  • Tanayia
    Just Said Yes July 2020
    Tanayia ·
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    Okay thank you so much this was very helpful .
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Rockstar July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    If you’re going with tradition, the responsibility does lie on the brides family but most cultures no longer follow the old ways and it’s usually up to the couple to pay with various family members pitching in here and there on their own accord.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I would say rarely do family's follow traditional etiquette anymore of the bride's parents paying for the entire wedding. My parents paid for our entire wedding and some of our honeymoon, and same for my cousin's wedding with my uncle. But most our friends help pay for their own with each set of parents contributing what they can.

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  • Lauren
    VIP February 2020
    Lauren ·
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    Like other's have said, not all families follow this etiquette anymore. My parents are paying for our whole wedding except for the rehearsal dinner (which my FILs are paying for), but a lot of parents don't do that anymore.

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  • Shaina
    Expert October 2020
    Shaina ·
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    Traditionally (American weddings) the brides parents pay for the wedding while the Fiance's parents pays for rehearsal dinner. Nowadays, the couple pays for their own wedding though.

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    The couple pays for their own wedding unless the parents/someone else offers.

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  • Natalia
    Dedicated June 2021
    Natalia ·
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    My fiancé and I had both planned on paying for our wedding, but my parents said that they would help with the cost. They are pretty traditional, and I am still in college so I don’t have a lot of money to spare anyways.
    But my grandma on my mom’s side paid for half of my wedding dress, my grandma on my dad’s side has offered to pay for jewelry, and my bridesmaids are amazing when it comes to DIY projects and decorations, and have offered to help with the cost.
    My fiancé’s parents are going to pay for the rehearsal dinner.
    So it’s a little bit of a team effort for my family ☺️
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  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
    Nefetera ·
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    I believe that's accent times lol ...me and my hubby dont want to depend on noone unless they offer will see if we want to accept it. However i feel if 2 ppl want a wedding they should pay for it and if someone wants to help cool
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  • Katharine
    Expert July 2021
    Katharine ·
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    We're paying for our own wedding mostly. My mom offered to pay for the cake and some of the related decor for that. FH thinks his parents are intending to contribute money at some point but since we've already paid for about 3/4 of it and are planning on paying the rest, we're not counting on them helping.

    If they do decide to give us any monetary assistance for the wedding, that will probably end up being used for excursions on our honeymoon since we've already paid most of the wedding expenses. Or put aside to pay other bills, or save towards a house down payment.

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  • Michelle
    Dedicated July 2021
    Michelle ·
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    My fiancé and I are covering our wedding. We don’t expect anyone to help us.

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    We split the cost. My parents, my in laws, and my wife and I are helped pay for our wedding.
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  • Pia
    Super May 2021
    Pia ·
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    Hi Tanayia! Congratulations!!!!

    To answer your question, time of ole is forgotten. Per tradition, the bride and/or her family pay for the ceremony and reception costs including music for both, guest favors, and any rentals. The groom and/or his family take care of the marriage license and the officiant fee. However, in today's day and age the wedding and all that encompasses it, is the responsibility of the Bride and Groom themselves.

    I found this article https://www.brides.com/story/what-your-family-pays-for-wedding-planning

    First of all, we have to throw out the disclaimer that there is no official ruling regulating financial responsibility. Traditionally, we probably all know that the bride's family foots the majority of the bill. But our annual American Wedding Study
    revealed that a majority of today's couples are also spending their own
    money to have the wedding they want, with more than half of all couples
    paying for or contributing to the cost.


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  • Tanayia
    Just Said Yes July 2020
    Tanayia ·
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    Thank you so much
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  • A
    Dedicated September 2020
    Alys ·
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    Neither, the couple is financially responsible for their own wedding. If parents want to contribute and the couple wants to accept, that’s nice but certainly not expected.


    As for “traditionally” what happened? Well, it depends on your culture. In the U.S., the brides family paid for the wedding. In my culture, the grooms side not only pays for the wedding but must provide a marital home as well, meaning he must also buy a house in addition to paying for wedding. Without the house, the brides parents would never consent to the marriage or bless it. Most people don’t really follow traditions, whatever those are.
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  • Pia
    Super May 2021
    Pia ·
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    My pleasure. Enjoy the article
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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
    Vicky ·
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    Nobody is supposed to pay for the wedding except the bride and groom. If anybody offers to pay or help pay, consider that a bonus (but keep in mind that it might come with strings).

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  • A
    Super August 2020
    Alex ·
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    No one is supposed to pay for the wedding except the bride and the groom. Traditional (in the US), the brides family's pay, but that is becoming less and less common. I would not ask anyone to pay. If they offer, great!

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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    My parent's wrote a check for what they could contribute before we set any budget. It's looking to cover a little less than a quarter of the entire thing. His parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner. We are paying for the rest.

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  • Lydia
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Lydia ·
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    We plan on paying for our own wedding. If my parents or his parents offer to help we wont turn them down.

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