Cost of Ring(s)?!

View Quoted Comment I didn't say his ring was expensive.


I said the silicon rings look like place holders, and not appropriate for nice outfits.
We are broke artists. We decided a small sum of money on the rings was worth it, so they would look nice.

View Quoted Comment Oh no. I wasn't implying that you said it was expensive. I was just explaining why I didn't want to buy anything expensive. Sorry for the miscommunication

View Quoted Comment

FYI if you're able to to edit your original post, you might want to clarify that you actually did buy your fiancee the gold wedding band that he wanted. I think a lot of the more 'judgemental' posts were from people who didn't realize that you ended up purchasing that gold ring in the photo and not the silicone set

My hubby has a 22 k gold band, does not care that it is a little soft because he does not wear it at work.

I do think its a bit odd that you are upset that your husband wants a nice precious metal eternal band to show his love for you. He probably thinks that the ring that signifies his commitment to you should be nicer than something worth only $2.50. A wedding band is a one time investment that will last forever.

My husband and I each paid for our own wedding bands (it was just easier that way). I think his was a bit under $1000 and mine was about a third of that. I don't know how much my e-ring cost, but it was definitely more than his ring. The only time my husband wore any sort of jewelry prior to our marriage was putting on a decent watch for a wedding or other special occasion. He now remembers to put on a ring every day more consistently than I do.

I encouraged my husband to look at alternative materials for rings (mostly because I was worried he'd lose it) but he liked white gold best because all of the other alternative metals were much thicker and felt chunkier on his hand. Sure gold was far more expensive than carbon or titanium or stainless or any of the other non-precious metal options out there, but its his wedding ring and he is going to be the one to wear it. Wedding bands are the one item in your wedding budget that are going to be used regularly for the entirety of your marriage. Spending a bit extra on them seems well worth it.

My husband and I both have silicone rings in addition to our gold ones, and we wear the silicone ones more often, but I wouldn't want them to be our only option. It always feels a bit special when we spy each other wearing the "real" ring, and we always break out our fancy rings for special occasions or date nights. I also where my rose gold rings when I'm nervous about something and my husband can't be there with me - wearing the wedding band he put on my finger on the day we got married and the engagement ring he asked me to marry him with feels like he's there supporting me.

My husband was never a "jewelry person" before getting married. But we chose his gold band together and he has worn it ever since. Therefore, I wouldn't automatically assume that a person who had never worn rings before won't wear their wedding ring (especially if they express that they want a wedding ring).

To answer your original question: I honestly don't remember how much we spent, but it was roughly the same price as my band (we bought them at the same time) and was within our modest budget.

View Quoted Comment Hi Kari. I wasn't upset at all! I wrote "teeny bit irritated," I thought that description was far from upset?


Anyway, I ended up buying him a gold ring. It's the original photo in the post.

View Quoted Comment My fh has done this with a few other things. Asked for a new pair of jeans, I bought them and he never wore them, etc. Since I grew up differently than him, my parents were very strict and would be furious whenever I wasted something. I can remember they bought me a pair of shoes for $15 and complained several times nc I only wore them once. Bc of the way I was brought up, I feel some type of way when a person asks me to buy them something and then they rarely or never use it. FH doesn't ask for much. But I still find it hard to imagine that he would really wear his ring daily or if he does then he'll danage it from weights. I guess I'm a scroodge. I really hate money being wasted.


Anyway, he got what he wanted. I bought him a gold wedding band

I don't understand why you started this threat if you get offended by everyones "judgement" or opinion- that is exactly what you asked everyone for.

I think the wedding band is the most important part of a wedding ceremony, it's so symbolic and special. If your FH just didn't have a preference on the ring, I would say to get whatever you wanted to. But if he wants a gold band, he should be able to get that, without you being frustrated. It isn't about your preference, it's his. I read that you are concerned that he will mess the ring up - that's on him. He still deserves a nice ring. Get him a pack of silicone rings from Walmart and ask him to wear those while he works out.

View Quoted Comment

OK. With that additional context, it sounds like this is about way more than a ring. Since you already bought the ring, I would work very hard to set aside your expectations for how much he will actually wear it. Keeping track to see if you got your money's worth on the purchase will only make you unhappy.

View Quoted Comment Hey girl, I was only upset by TWO people on this thread when over 30 or so replied. 2 out of 30 is hardly "everyone."


Okay cool, thanks for your opinion!

View Quoted Comment Okay thank you for giving your constructive feedback.

View Quoted Comment

Every reply you send is passive, like "how dare you share your opinion that I asked for", if you didn't get the response you wanted. But it looks like you got the ring! Good for you and him and good luck!

View Quoted Comment Oh no, ma'am! Tgat is far from the truth. I thanked many people for sharing their opinions! I felt judged by two women in particular out of several dozen respondents.


Good luck to you and your FH as well! Did you end up making specific arrangements for his Bachelor party?

View Quoted Comment

Yep! I booked his house this weekend!

I think guys are a little different than girls, at least most guys. It’s not necessarily the quantity but quality. And maybe he was thinking this is the only ring I’ll ever get so he wanted something a little nicer? Definitely something to talk about beforehand. My fiancé spent a good amount on my engagement ring. I spent nearly $400 on his White gold band. We got both our rings on James Allen. We’re not materialistic people either but my fiancé knew these were the only ring we would ever buy no upgrades and he wanted it to be nice. He got me a nice engagement ring I love so I felt it was only fair to get him a nice wedding band he would be proud of even though he won’t wear it as much either. It’s definitely a conversation to have bc every couple is different. Also, prior to my engagement ring I never wore jewelry either beside stud earrings so my fiancé was surprised that I never take off my engagement ring. Sometimes it just goes to show they are waiting for the right one to wear. But it’s definitely a conversation youshould have with him and it doesn’t have to be awkward, you’re getting married to each other so got to be comfortable talking about those things.

Your fiance is right. He will be wearing this ring for the rest of his life, get him something durable. A $10 silicone ring is not it.

View Quoted Comment Hi Kim! Thank you for the suggestions

View Quoted Comment Hi Marcia.
I ended up buying him a gold wedding band. It's pictured in the original post.

Phew reading through this thread is exhausting!
My fiancé initially wanted to get a tattoo but in the end we found a nice tungsten wedding band for $140. He may still get the tattoo, he said.
The ring you bought him is nice.