Corsage drama.

@Rebecca -- while searching photos for an example I found a lot of really pretty corsages. I was never really a fan, they make me think more "highschool prom" than wedding, but I think if they are done well they can be really pretty.

We are skipping them. Only the groomsmen, FH and my dad (since he's giving me away) will have a bout. We figure everyone will know who our parents are and if not, they'll see who they are when they light their candle.

The picture that was posted of the corsage being more inline with the hand is what mother had in mind. She seriously called me at 8:45 this morning asking about corsages and you could hear her almost drop the phone when I said I was considering scrapping the idea. I met her for brunch and that was the FIRST thing she brought up. I am 2 months out so really IDGAF if she wants that, fine, if not whatever. I personally think they look prom-like but I think I am going to try and press the nosegay idea BECAUSE they can be handed off and used in pictures. It's not like I feel like the ladies do not need to be honored because they should I just don't think having a matchy corsage is the way to go since the ladies will be in different colors.

I agree with Emily, order all the same in wedding colors and let them put them where they choose. They do not have to match the dress of each person and I would make them all the same so the ladies do not compete for the "special" one and you have to hear about it in undertones and little snipes for the next 10 years how the FMiL took the "special" one that she should have know was for the Mom, etc.

My FMIL hates our corsages (surprise surprise). She wanted us to buy a live flower corsage for her, even though all other wedding flowers are paper. Nope.

Oh for crying out loud. Get her a live corsage. It'll be the best 20 bucks you ever spend. Make that 40 since you'll cover your mom too.

I agree with @Emily. I have never been to a wedding where the corsages matched what people were wearing. They have always just been the same as the wedding colors/flowers. I would do the same flowers that are in the bridesmaids bouquets personally. Simple, done.

@Celia neither of them are currently invited to the wedding, so I think we'll be saving the $40.

If you have bouts for some of the guys, then their mates (immediate family) should have a coursage...i.e. - Dad gets a boutineer, then Mom gets a coursage. Grandpa gets a boutineer, than Grams gets a coursage. Im doing just for parents, my reader, my self appointed personal attendant, my pianist, the groomsmen. Im doing simple white carnation boutineers, and the same, with a bow as my coursages. Cheapest they make, since all will be dead by morning.

Oh my mother had tears and fits over this!!! I started out wanting to have her, my grandma and the grooms sister (he doesn't have a relationship with his mom) to have corsages and my aunt that I'm really close to to have a smaller version. Uhhh, that was like world war 2. How dare I insult her by getting my aunt one and I want my aunt to be my mom and blah blah. Needless to say, my next words were, NO ONE is getting them. I have held steady to that, but fully intended to order my mom one, once things calmed down. Nope. She caused so much unnecessary drama regarding my bridal shower that it ruined the day a little for me and added an insane amount of stress to me the morning of my boudior shoot with her arguing with me about my aunt etc, that I again decided no corsages. I told my mom she could carry the toss bouquet down the aisle. She claimed this was insulting and she would do no such thing. Seeing as how it's that or nothing, that's what she is doing and I don't even care.

I'm also in corsage hell. I wasn't even going to have them, then one day I'm at my FMIL's and she pulls out this huge white blob of something and said it was FH's aunt's corsage. Now, my FMIL is a wonderful decorator. Her house is a show piece and her holiday decor is out of this world. Her wedding decor.....not so much. Never mind our tastes are very different, but you'd think kids crafted that thing. She did my younger FSIL's wedding centerpieces and our BM flowers and they were hideous. Our wedding she wanted to do the men's bouts and the BM's tussy mussy's. That was not fun. We went back and forth a lot but we found a happy medium. But this corsage thing totally threw me. Why the hell would I do corsages for aunts? Then I remembered his aunt is his god mother. OK. But now I have to have stupid corsages for the mothers. 'm not doing flowers, so I have to come up something unique. Just another thing to think on.