Corsage drama.

In no universe is there a plausible phase "corsage drama".

My florist gave the options of a corsage or "nosegay" for the mothers (unfortunately, neither of us have grandmothers with us any longer). Maybe that's an option? I had no idea what a nosegay was at the time...as I understand it, they are just small mini-bouquets. Could that be an option for you or the moms & grandmas?

If it were me I would either go all or none. How come the men would get them but not the women?

I think the ivory ones will work perfectly fine

My mom really wanted one and hadn't picked her dress yet so she decided all bouts and corsages would be simple white roses. They go with everything.

I agree her idea sound ridiculous. I personally wouldn't pay for anything, you have already said you aren't doing corsages. If she would like a corsage to wear on the day, just give her the number to your florist and she can pay for one herself if she insists.

Mom seriously threw a fit when I said I was just going to do without them - I mean the thing is my mom is walking me down the aisle, so she cannot really hold anything because she will be holding my hand. My grandmother is coming with my uncle so I am having a hard time figuring out how/where I will give her the corsage/nosegay/whatever since my brother is being taxed with escorting her to her seat.

I went with white for the corsages and bouts for everyone not in the bridal party so I know it won't clash with whatever they decide to wear. I think it's the safest bet. Good luck!

GrayCat - I had the same issue - too old fashioned, and pinning one on, they get mashed and look gnarly really fast. Here's an alternative... give the moms "posy bouquets". Here's my MIL with hers. They can hold them in their hand, for photos, but they won't compete with the dresses, and they'll have a nice momento if they want to dry them. It worked perfectly for us.

My relatives are old school and insisted on the corsages. I did a pin on for my grandmother and asked my mother/FMIL what they would prefer. Go with neutral colors. They aren't that expensive and they aren't worth the drama. If it's going to compete with her dress and she is insisting, then let it. You don't have to wear it. lol

When I hear brides say they aren't going to have corsages, the first thing I think is 'uh oh! aunt Gertrude is going to have a fit!' though I don't they they are needed either, a lot of old school people find them to be a big time honor to wear them at things like weddings. it shows that they are special and honored.

it's you call, but when it comes to the corsages, long as it's in the budget, I think you should do it.

but, keep in mind things like one person having a biggerone is likely to make others think 'she got the special one'

I've seen it happen. one person goes for the 'special one' because they feel it's going to make them stand out as the honored one vs the others.

so I think it probably is best to just get wrist corsages in Ivory all the same. be ready for some opinions on it as you're already heard, but in cases like this, sometimes you have to treat them like little kids. give them all the same because you love them all equally. they may not like it, but then I think that's the most fair way to go.

good luck, and I think your idea of Ivory is great. maybe let them pick different flowers perhaps, but if there's any squabbling about it, give them all the same!

my grandparents had to do that with my mom and aunt- when they were kids and adults!

We also did small bouquets instead of corsages. If your mom REALLY is dying for a corsage, then I suppose it's probably not a hill to die on. Couldn't she hold your hand and a bouquet in the other?

Grandparents are usually escorted during the procession so could Grandma get her bouquet before she proceeds with her usher/groomsman?

Great example of brides/family stressing the smallest things.

yes id say order them a ivory one and keep it moving.

One other option - when i was in Paris once, i wandered into a store where the owner had these beautiful fabric flower pins - one large flower. She didn't speak English, and I don't speak French, but when I picked it up she put it where most people pin a corsage, and said "No!" and she moved it up towards the shoulder, almost sitting on top of the shoulder, and closer to the neck, and said "Viola!"

It came back to me that, perhaps you do make a 'girly' version of a boutonniere... a single white dalia or other suitably large showy flower, with a little greens around it, and pin that up near their shoulder, where it would be less like a corsage,and more like an accessory. Just a thought...

I am so confused on this. Do you have a picture of what she wants? Not sure what a corsage sleeve looks like. So flowers going up her arm from her wrist to shoulder? Like a robot arm made of flowers??

I think the OP means she wants something that doesn't just sit at the wrist but that the flowers are arranged to point back or lay along the back of the wrist and lower arm. Which would compete with the beading on the cuff of the dress. Like this:

@Alyson - that's very cool, and looks more like jewelry than a corsage, which is really pretty... but I agree, it would be too much with beading on a sleeve - it works best as an accessory, with bare arms.

I would just do a regular wrist corsage with colors that coordinate with your wedding. I am not sure why this is drama, I think your mom is right in that if the father's and grandfather's get bouts then the mom's should get corsages.

If your mom is seriously throwing a fit, just get her a damn flower in ivory lol. If it competes with the beading, that's her choice of where to wear it. Never before WW would I have ever thought I'd see the words "corsage drama" LOL

Don't make this into drama. Just order normal wrist corsages to coordinate with your wedding colors. I have never seen them made to compliment the colors that each individual is wearing. They are usually all the same, in the wedding colors.