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Christine
Dedicated June 2021

Coronavirus=pure Panic

Christine, on March 12, 2020 at 7:48 PM

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My wedding is 5/2/2020. My county just shut down for two weeks. I’m in a state of panic, this is not something you think you need to prepare for when wedding planning. It sure if I’m over or under freaking out here. Anyone else??
My wedding is 5/2/2020. My county just shut down for two weeks. I’m in a state of panic, this is not something you think you need to prepare for when wedding planning. It sure if I’m over or under freaking out here. Anyone else??

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  • Sara
    Devoted April 2020
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    I’m also 4/4/20 and our schools just closed down for two weeks. It’s very scary all we can do is pray everything will work out.
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  • Poornika
    Savvy December 2021
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    I work in Montgomery County! What a small world. My wedding is 6/6/20, and I've been pretty worried. I had a bridal shower set for next weekend in Virginia (where my parents live), but I postponed that to May since I'm hoping things will be better by then, but who knows. I also have a bachelorette trip to NOLA planned for Easter weekend, and I might cancel it unless things change before then.
    Do you have wedding insurance? We have wedding insurance because our venue requires liability coverage, and when we took out our policy, we also added some coverage for cancellation/postponement. Unfortunately, we didn't get enough coverage for cancellation/postponement to cover our entire wedding budget (since we didn't think we would need to actually cancel the entire thing), so now I'm trying to get in touch with our insurance agency to see if we can increase our coverage. Not sure if they'll let us (and if they do, it might cost an arm and a leg), but I think it's worth it to look into the possibility of getting/increasing wedding insurance if you don't have it. At the very least, it will give you peace of mind.
    We sent out wedding invitations last week, and I'm now also debating telling people that they can RSVP later than the deadline we set so that people aren't rushed to make a decision while things are so uncertain now. One of my friends lives in London, and while she can travel to the US now (since travel is still permitted from the UK), she's worried about whether that will change by our wedding date. So I told her she could wait to RSVP until later.
    Also, do you have any hotel room blocks? We blocked rooms at two nearby hotels, and I'm now contacting them to see if they're willing to give full refunds if any of our guests cancel. I know some of our guests have already booked rooms there, and I'm sure that the rest of our guests are probably reluctant to book rooms right now since things are still so uncertain.
    Lastly, know that you are not alone in this. It is an awful situation to be in right now. Even if getting sick isn't at the top of your list of concerns, trying to figure out how things will be by the time you get married is so stressful and anxiety-inducing. I really hope that the situation improves asap (hopefully this shut-down in Montgomery County really does slow down the spread of the virus and ease people's concerns over the next 2 weeks). I encourage talking to your vendors and your wedding guests to see how they all feel about this; that's been helpful for me. All of the people invited to my bridal shower were so understanding and supported my decision to postpone the shower, and that really helped quell my anxiety over having to move that. Good luck with everything, and most importantly, stay safe!

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  • G
    Beginner May 2021
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    I am a doctor. My wedding is on May 30th. Trying to juggle COVID19 preparations for both my clinical program (I'm a medical director) and my wedding has been super stressful. There is some misinformation in this thread: so far, data is showing that COVID 19 is deadlier than the flu. If you want to understand how far this has the potential to progress, follow along with what is happening in Italy (a country with a great healthcare system). I really hope we don't get to that level, but given that we have far fewer testing kits than what is needed, I have to prepare for this potential. 85% of my 140 invited guests would be flying in from out of town, and we have a few elderly and immunocompromised folks who are must-attends from our standpoint so these are real considerations for us.


    So far, my bachelorette scheduled 4/18 will likely be cancelled (not a big deal to me, as the bachelorette was not that important to me). We are entertaining 3 possibilities for our wedding: 1) continue wedding as planned expecting far fewer guests, and ask venue if they would be willing to lower the minimum # expected, 2) postpone wedding (may mean having to find some new vendors if the vendors can't reschedule, or 3) cancel wedding and just go to the courthouse (and lose the tens of thousands in deposits already spent). I am hoping for option #1 but bracing myself for the possibility of #2 or 3.

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  • P
    Beginner January 2021
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    Same date. I’m totally freaking out too. We are getting married here in CA and 80% of our guests coming from out of state. My fiancé's parents are based in FL. Some of our guest starting to cancel so i called Hilton, our venue, yesterday and tried to reschedule. I was devastated when they said that they are on business as usual and rescheduling is considered cancellation. Double checked our contract and if we cancel now we’ll loose all the payment we made😭


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  • Kari
    VIP May 2020
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    Our wedding is 5/30/20 and I'm slightly worried about coronavirus (slightly, as in I view the virus and ensuing hysteria as an inconvenience, not as in I'm worried we need to cancel our whole wedding).

    I think it's way too early to know how the virus and response may impact weddings in May. Unless you have a destination wedding, many people traveling to your wedding by plane, and many elderly guests or a number of guests with compromised immune systems, I would not worry at this point. Try to stay calm, and take each day as it comes.

    We've already had guests who will be traveling RSVP to our wedding (just yesterday) and we haven't even sent out the official invites yet. They are typically a plane ride or a 8 hour drive away. So there are definitely people out there who are going on with life and not letting the hysteria take over their plans.

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  • Kari
    VIP May 2020
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    Thanks for the insight. I work at a college (we've extended our spring break and the possibility of students not returning seems more likely each day) and have a number of friends in the health care field and also am getting married on 5/30/20. One of my best friends is finishing nursing school right now (in California) and getting married on 5/30/20 as well.

    Thanks for all you do and I can't imagine the stress you must be under. We are anticipating that some guests may opt not to travel to our wedding due to the virus and travel recommendations, but fortunately MOST of our guests are within driving distance, however your situations 1, 2, and 3 are very similar to ours. We're about $6k into deposits but fortunately don't need to pay additional balances until the day of, however I love the vendors we've picked and would really hate to redo it all or settle for a courthouse event after spending so much time and money. I'm hoping that by late May some seasonal changes and a better response system in the USA will more or less have things under reasonable control. Hoping for the best for you!

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  • Kelly
    Savvy May 2020
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    Me too!! Mine is May 22.
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  • Maya
    Beginner May 2021
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    I am also getting married on May 2nd, and I am stressed to say the least! I had nightmares last night and I feel like I’m going to have a breakdown!
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  • Andrea
    Super May 2020
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    Suburbs of Chicago, IL.
    Well if we can get through this after all the stress and planning of a wedding, our marriages can last through anything! I had my mom get ordained online last night. We are getting married May 2nd even if it’s at our house haha
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  • R
    Just Said Yes May 2020
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    I'm getting married May 3rd. Had to cancel my bachelorette for this weekend Smiley sad Today is the first day I'm feeling mentally calm enough to message my venue about contingency planning. I can't decide whether I would be happier keeping the date even if none of my friends could attend (nearly everyone is flying in from out of town) or postponing it to a later date.

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  • Christine
    Dedicated June 2021
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    I love your attitude. I said the same, my fiancé’s cousin is ordained so we’re doing this thing!
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  • Gladys
    Dedicated November 2020
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    Me too my wedding date it's May 2 as well, I had people coming from NYC and I still don't know what's going to happen ! Roanoke VA hasn't shut down yet and I hope it stays like that. I'm praying for everyone plans to be fulfilled. Stay positive ladies , atleast that what I'm trying to do. Good luck
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Kathryn you and me both. Lots of fam have spoken about their concerns about the coronavirus and some have cancelled (most of them being local, even) and the ones coming out of town are very worried. As much as it pains us, we're leaning towards the same thing. We may have to go to the court house and then have our renewal a year later. We just don't have a lot of options at this point as well. This is just a bad situation all around. We're April 4 too.

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  • K
    Just Said Yes May 2020
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    My wedding is May 30, 2020. I'm worried, but hopeful. I am determined to
    have my wedding for anyone that will come. Already had to cancel my
    Bachelorette party. Smiley sad I live in New York.


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  • J
    Beginner September 2020
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    We are deciding to postpone our early May wedding in NYC to September. It was a hard decision.
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  • B. Yvette
    Dedicated March 2020
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    Our reception is a month after our destination beach wedding three hours away. I have been considering moving the date of the reception because of all the madness. People have even started asking about a change. Giving it a little more time. Fortunately haven’t spent a boatload of money since I’m a DIY kind of gal

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  • Theadra
    Devoted June 2021
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    I feel you girl. I know some people that are coming but like 90% of our guest list is out of the state plus we barely have had a lot of ppl officially rsvp. My wedding is at the very end of June (6/28), so Im not worried. But it can def be a possibility. Hopefully , health officials will figure out a way to get everything under control too. But like most people said you should def contact your venue/vendors since its so soon.

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  • Theadra
    Devoted June 2021
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    Sorry girl, I'm from New York and most of our guest list is all of my family from there/flying from the east coast. I'm with you and like I've been telling my mom and other ppl, the people that come is the people that are ment to be there.

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  • Nelli
    Beginner May 2021
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    Same date. I am concerned that it'll affect travel within the US. But hoping things will quiet down by April or sooner. I am still going forward with wedding planning and RSVPs have been coming in slowly.
    Working in NY and in the health care industry can be very unnerving with news coming from every direction and changing every second.
    I hope everyone stays calm and positive during this difficult time. Let's inform ourselves with good information and be proactive if worst comes to worst.


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  • Fleur
    October 2020
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    According to your own article lol: "Doctors and scientists are working on estimating the mortality rate of COVID-19, but at present, it is thought to be higher than that of most strains of the flu."
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