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Corona wedding blues

Christine, on October 12, 2020 at 4:21 PM Posted in Planning 0 5
We postponed our 6/20/20 destination wedding and eloped at home instead. It was beautiful and meaningful but now when it comes to our postponed celebration in Turks and Caicos, I can’t get excited again about getting back to planning.

I’m slightly annoyed that we didn’t get our own special moment and that hubby’s parents were peeved about us eloping, commenting sarcastically about whether they could get their deposit back. It sounds like they may not even go now. This is par for the course with my in laws but I know it makes my husband sad.
Now hubby is making all kinds of offers (like to remodel our kitchen) to try to get me to cancel our plans for June 2021. I desperately want a new kitchen (who wouldn’t , especially since we don’t have a dishwasher) but I also want my wedding and I’m sad.


Latest activity by Marcia, on October 14, 2020 at 3:07 PM
  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    Have you and your husband sat down to talk about it? Does he not want a wedding now?
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  • Angel
    Expert August 2020
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    I totally get where you're coming from. We also got married on our original day, and postponed the big wedding for March. I was crying for days once I realized we had to cancel our original plans, and didn't want this all to drag on. Then, we eloped and it was very underwhelming. I considered cancelling the big wedding since we were already married, but realized how important it is to me to live that moment and have all our family there. If it's important to you, don't budge. I'm now getting super excited (hoping we're able to continue with March) and love looking forward to it all over again. We all deserve our special day!

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  • Katie
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    I'm sorry you feel disappointed by the day and situation, it sucks. I do have to say, I agree with your husband on this one. A destination wedding in June 2021 will very likely still have strict limitations, if travel to T&C is even permitted at that time. I think you're going to be in for nearly a year's worth of stress to ultimately still not have your dream wedding. It sucks, but it may be the reality. That said, now is a great time to invest in your home and now that we are spending more time home than ever, to have it be a special haven for you and your husband. Maybe you can plan a 2 or 5 year anniversary abroad, once all these worries can be out of the way.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    I'm so sorry Christine, and your feelings are totally valid! This is all way less than ideal, and it's understandable that you'd have a hard time getting excited again.

    I'd sit down and talk and make sure you guys are both on the same page. If you're both onboard with the Turks & Caicos plans, then just make yourself a good timeline and checklist - and give yourself permission to feel lukewarm about planning right now! It isn't always fun, but that's ok. The excitement will probably return once you're closer to your celebration date. Smiley heart

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  • Marcia
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    Marcia ·
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    I'm in a similar situation and I just can't get excited again. We are actually considering just not having a reception, dealing with a bunch of upset family members, and moving on with our lives. All of the drama around planning, delaying, replanning a covid wedding has taken every ounce of joy out of it.

    I have never had a wedding before, so I can't speak to whether or not it will be worth it when the day comes. I do think that family drama and all of the headaches from rescheduling can really suck the joy out of an event.

    Best of luck! Hoping I can get some advice from this thread too.

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