Controlling bridesmaids

"I'll keep that in mind. Thanks for the suggestions. So how about this weather we're having..."

I don't think either of your guesses are correct. You're not being a bridezilla, but the assumption of her'trying to redo her wedding through you' is also very far fetched in my opinion.

She's probably just trying to be helpful.

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Is she married or engaged? I think some people do wedding planning much differently. My best friend went to bridal shows constantly when she got engaged and I haven't (and don't plan to) gone to any.

I would just kindly tell her that you just aren't interested and she doesn't have to worry because you have already taken care of everything!

@jo-Jess I don't anymore hell I want her out but she is only in it due to her being a good friend Of my fiance. She was so cool prior to her own wedding in which I was in but afterwards she changed and now she is just turned into a bitch to the point I am over her even the other bridesmaids are over her

Obviously there are other underlying issues going on. Why did you ask her to be a bridesmaid if you don't like her? Even if she's a good friend of FH's, that doesn't mean you had to make her a bridesmaid.

@K.M. I told her the last two times I'm good and she still sends it. She complains about everything to the point I'm like u don't have to like it if u want to be in it just do it. So I told my girls I want them to all use the makeup artist I have used before and she only charges $40 per person she was the only bridesmaid out of 10 who said I want a consultation and I asked her why seeing that she has no other choice she said to make sure she likes her work huh

She might just be super excited. Without knowing more about her or your relationship, it's hard to say. I wouldn't jump to something negative, like her trying to live vicariously through you. My BF (MOH) was so excited that she did get almost a little annoying at times, constantly sending ideas and begging to help do things. She really just might be so happy and excited and can't control herself!

ETA ok, just read your last comment. If you don't even like this girl, and she's a "bitch", then you've made a bigger problem.

Are you paying for them to have their make-up done, or do they have to pay for it?

If you're asking them to pay for it, I don't blame her for wanting to make sure she likes the MUA's work first.

Tiffany - are you paying for the girls to have their makeup done? I think it's a little "bridezilla" to say "you have no choice" regarding someone getting their makeup done

Well I thought we were good friends I mean we have had deep convos, over each other's houses all the time we go out on friends dates she was the only one out of his friends significant others I would call a friend but something has changed since I got engaged even her husband said he doesn't know what is going on and please just bare with her. I'm trying but recently she basically called me a bad friend and I basically was done since I haven't done anything to her. I love her but how she has been acting and treating me lately I'm over it.

Also yes I am paying for the makeup

@vanessa I am paying I just don't want my girls trying to do their make up themselves it's one day of pampering for all of us.

I went to one bridal show. It was fun, but after you have your vendors booked there is no point

I don't think asking for a consultation is unreasonable. What is unreasonable is the idea that she has use your makeup artist that she has to pay for.

@stephanie she is not paying

Tiffany - I still think they should have a choice personally. I wouldn't demand my bridal party do anything. Some people are uncomfortable with others touching their faces, using makeup they don't typically use...etc.

It sounds like nobody has that issue though for your bridal party except the one who wants a trial. I would tell her that she's welcome to contact the vendor to schedule something but that the cost for a trial is up to her. If she pays for it, I don't think you can say yes or no to her getting a trial.

She sounds like a pain in the ass!

Even still, what's the harm in a consultation ? If she is paying for the consult, let her.

@vanessa that's what I did. It's just annoying for someone to not listen to you when you are telling them how you want your day to fall or what vendors you want to use. I just want her to understand I have everything and anything I forget my coordinator will help I don't need her help and I have tried to say it in the nicest way possible but it's almost like she is doing it on purpose.

Ugh, she does sound annoying.

I'd just ignore the bridal show comments. Maybe she's wanting you to go so you can hang out together? Why don't you suggest doing something else...lunch and a manicure or something. Otherwise, just kindly say "i'll think about that" and change the subject like everyone else suggested.

As for the make up artist....I wouldn't worry about it. Just tell her "if you'd like a consultation, here is her number. She charges $$ for her consultations. I will pay for your wedding make up, but you don't like her and would like to use someone else, you'll have to cover it yourself." Don't let her get to you. Make it her own problem. More than likely, she'll do het consultation and be fine.

@stephanie so let's just say she doesn't like it then what? I don't see the point because she has no other options. I gave her the info it's just pointless in my eyes