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I imagine the closee it gets the more people might offer help. Not a lot of vendors book 3 years out so I'm not sure what exactly you can plan this soon anyway. Maybe spend a year building up your budget and gathering ideas. Remember too that trends change and what you want now may not be realistic or may change drastically closer to your wedding.

1. It is you and your FH who should be planning the wedding. I got so annoyed towards the end of people trying to help because they would give suggestions that weren't even close to our vision, but was something that fit in their vision.
2. 3 years is a long time to be planning. Give them time, they will probably start when it gets sooner.
3. If you want help, you should be clear and ask for what you need from whom you would like it. My husband would give negative reactions without alternative suggestions when I didn't necessarily need his help, but then not help when I did. So I calmly told him, "this is your party too, so I need your help. If you don't like something then I need your help in making it better. And if I ask for your help with something, 'I don't know' doesn't work." But I would not expect anything from anyone except your FH because it's not their party.

Thats really tricky. No one will be as excited as you and you are still a long ways away from making decisions and your plans will change too in that time! I wouldn't take it too personal as everyones dealing with their own stesses and life and wedding are a lot to handle planning wise so a lot of people wont have the energy to get involved Take your time

No one may be volunteering due to the time
frame. That is so far away... I would use the time to stash away savings for expenses. If you make a check list with that time frame, it will be easy to accomplish.

Do what makes you happy!! It's your special day, not theirs! If that means eloping then do it!

Yea, ditto on the above posts re: timing. It can be easy to get swept up and being really excited yourself, but def try your best to find some other focus until it gets closer. Focusing on saving money, or just planning some activities with your partner may be good to distract you.

If you get too obsessed with the wedding, that can spill over and might not be welcome to your friends/ family/ partner if they just view it as a really important and special day -- but not the ONLY DAY in the future. Read around on WW - I'd caution that sometimes it seems like when brides pick their bridal party/ start doing things super early, they can be the most unhappy about the whole process because it gets so built up, and the best friend from 3 years out turns into "she's not very excited for me/ not helping/ regret choice" 1 year out.