Brandi
Devoted July 2020

Concerns about location or fmil or both

Brandi, on September 25, 2019 at 11:54 AM

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Hi all, I hope all is well. I am recently engaged (Sept. 1) and we are expected to marry November 2020. Everything is booked – venue, DJ, photographer. Great! Got it all done in three or so weeks. We are Philadelphia natives with the bulk of our family in Philadelphia too. However, we found the...

Hi all,

I hope all is well. I am recently engaged (Sept. 1) and we are expected to marry November 2020. Everything is booked – venue, DJ, photographer. Great! Got it all done in three or so weeks. We are Philadelphia natives with the bulk of our family in Philadelphia too. However, we found the perfect venue in a township approximately 20 minutes outside of Philadelphia in Norristown. Norristown isn’t far whatsoever. People travel frequently to the three malls that sit outside of Norristown (Plymouth Meeting – approximately 10 minutes from N.Town; King of Prussia - approximately 10 minutes from N.Town & Willow Grove - approximately 20 minutes from N.Town). Our venue has a ceremony room, the reception hall, open bar, cocktail hour, is beautiful AND has parking.

However, my FMIL seems to think it is too far AND claims that practically none of FI’s family will come because of distance. Thus, putting such a damper on our wedding planning.

I wanted to get married in my home church in Philadelphia but decided against it because I considered my guest and the travel. Now, we’re having our ceremony on-site. It’s still a problem.

I just wanted to know your thoughts, what you’d do in my situation and, best steps for moving forward in our wedding planning process.

25 Comments

  • C
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Cielo ·
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    Hi! If you found your perfect place, have it there. You were considerate enough to have both ceremony & reception at the same place to avoid travel.

    I’m from that area as well and our venue is one hour away! I was a little reluctant but I love the venue & the privacy it gives us. My fiancé told me that if people want to come, they’ll make the effort.
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  • Futuremrsm
    Expert October 2020
    Futuremrsm ·
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    20 minutes is not that far. I live in bucks county and I know the drive you are talking about and its really not bad. If you were asking for a place an hour away, sure. But 20 minutes? That's not even far!
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  • Futuremrsm
    Expert October 2020
    Futuremrsm ·
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    I also agree with this! If people really want to go, they will make the drive.
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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    20 minutes is not far at all! There are rideshares like Uber and Lyft that could transport guests too. I think FMIL is overthinking the "travel" time. Some people drive longer than 20 minutes to work every day! Good luck! Your venue sounds amazing too! Smiley smile

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  • KandiKrix
    Dedicated August 2020
    KandiKrix ·
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    20 minutes is not far at all! Keep the venue Smiley smile

    The distance between my church and venue is about 14 minutes with normal traffic and probably longer during rush hour (which is probably what my guests will be driving through). I personally wouldn't mind driving up to 30 minutes but that's just me. Make sure guests have perfect instructions on how to get to both of the two and I think you will be fine!

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