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Commitment Ceremony for dying Grandma

FutureMrsPurdy, on April 6, 2015 at 9:46 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 20

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A week ago I posted about FH's grandma dying. His Grandma raised him and along with his grandfather, legally adopted him and his sister when they were little. FH has a very special relationship with her. She is located in Wisconsin and we live in upstate New York, so over the weekend we drove out there to say goodbye. We surprised her and had our relationship blessed with a commitment ceremony. It was like a mini-wedding. Everyone kinda pitched in. One family member had silk flowers put together, a cake was made. It was awesome. With about 15 family members, crowded into Grandma's room we had our ceremony. Nearly everyone cried and Grandma said it was the best wedding she had ever been to. I have no regrets and am so happy we did this. My favorite part: when the pastor asked us to join hands, grandma gave us her hand to hold. We said our vows holding her hand. I look forward to my wedding on July 4th, but our "wedding" on April 4th will always be special to us.

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FutureMrsPurdy · on April 6, 2015 at 9:48 PM
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Pastor Dave, FH and I
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Chloe · on April 6, 2015 at 9:48 PM
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That's so sweet. I'm happy you guys got to include her in your day! Memories like that are the best. Congrats!
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Devoted May 2017
K8 D · on April 6, 2015 at 9:52 PM
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That is awesome. I would have done the same
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FutureMrsPurdy · on April 6, 2015 at 9:55 PM
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Last picture, FH and I after the "wedding".
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Kimberly · on April 6, 2015 at 9:58 PM
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This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Congratulations on your commitment ceremony.
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Victoria · on April 6, 2015 at 10:42 PM
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I'm leaking from my eye a little. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.
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FinallyMrsT · on April 7, 2015 at 3:01 AM
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That is so sweet, and beautiful! How special that your whole family (but especially the two of you) got to share this with her!
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Happy In Hawaii · on April 7, 2015 at 3:05 AM
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Wow that is so sweet, I'm so glad she enjoyed it, I'm sure it meant the world to her that she got to witness that. How touching, and congrats on your little wedding, it is very special and I'm sure something you'll be happy you did for the rest of your lives!
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Hiatus · on April 7, 2015 at 7:01 AM
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Sweetest thing! I lost my grandmother 3 weeks before our wedding, it was so quick that we did not get a chance to do this.
You will always remember this moment, possibly more than your 7/4 :-)
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T. · on April 7, 2015 at 8:01 AM
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What a beautiful and everlasting sentiment, and a wonderful way to remember her. I am so very sorry for what you and FH must be going through with having to say goodbye to her, but I can't imagine a better way to do it.
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Nikki · on April 7, 2015 at 8:05 AM
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I'm glad he was able to share that moment with her. So very sweet.
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Jeleebeenz · on April 7, 2015 at 9:24 AM
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What a loving and wonderful thing to do. I just love where you guys held her hand too. Thank you for an uplifting story about what is really important. I am sure she couldn't have felt more loved.
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Beth · on April 7, 2015 at 9:28 AM
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I'm glad you were able to do that for her (and for your FH as well, I'm sure). Now you'll have two special dates together.
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Mrs. Nicole · on April 7, 2015 at 9:31 AM
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That is really sweet of you guys to do. You are both great people
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Nancy Taussig · on April 7, 2015 at 10:39 AM
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I did a hand-fasting ceremony for a couple in a similar situation. The FOG was not expected to live until their official wedding date. I had him tie the cords around the B&G's hands.
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Kara · on April 7, 2015 at 10:43 AM
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What a wonderful thing to do! I can only imagine how much it meant to her and it will give your FH a special memory to hold on the day of the actual wedding. Congratulations!
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FutureMrsPurdy · on April 7, 2015 at 9:09 PM
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Thank you for the sweet posts. I'm so glad we did this. We found out a couple of hours ago, Grandma has passed away. She talked about our "wedding" constantly in the last couple of days and I know it made her very happy. I am consoled by this.
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Victoria · on April 7, 2015 at 9:13 PM
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Sorry for your loss
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Susan · on April 7, 2015 at 9:45 PM
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What a blessing you got to do this for her. Your story is very similar to mine with the ICU wedding for my dying father. It was our legal one, but we plan to celebrate the happy one. Most of us, including the minister, were crying through the first one. It meant the world to dad, and he passed 4.5 days later. I treasure those memories.
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FutureMrsPurdy · on April 7, 2015 at 10:50 PM
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@Susan M how much time between both ceremonies? We have a difference of three months. I hope having that space of time help with the healing.
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