Combined bachelor and bachelorette Party

Our friends did this and just had a nice dinner and a night on the town. I don't see anything wrong with it if you're just looking to have a good time with all of your friends.

There's nothing wrong with it one way or the other. If all of your friends overlap it could be a great time.

We're doing separate parties, but it's all personal preference.

What is the point? like its supposed to be your last hurrah or whatever and a night without your significant other won't hurt either of you.

We technically did this and it was great. We have a friend overlap (almost equal guys and ladies) and it was a blast. It all depends on the "feel" you're going for.

We were thinking about this but I also feel like I especially want my FH to get some time alone with his guy friends since he doesn’t get to see a lot of them at all (also his best man is incredibly excited to plan the bachelor party and I don’t want to take that away from him by making it a combined thing 😂)

We plan to do our bachelor/bachelorette parties the same night as each other (Friday night, before our Sunday wedding) FH and I were talking about maybe ending on the earlyish side (by which I mean like 11 or 12) and then combining our groups and continuing the celebration for another hour or two back at the hotel bar or in our suite

I'm a fan of keeping them separate for part of the night and then combining! That way, you get to have some solid time for being silly and having "girl talk", which in general gets toned down when you're with guys - at least that's true for myself. And same with the guys. Not saying you can't let loose around your FH and his friends, but we all know it tends to be a different kind of letting loose. Anyway, it's also super fun when you combine the parties at the end of the night, swap stories about what you've been up to, and get a little crazy together!

We have a tight knit friend group so a combo was the perfect choice for us. The MOH and BM threw as an amazing weekend long party. We both have plenty of girl time outings and guy time outings, it was really fun to just have the entire group together.

I think it depends on what the person/people planning a bachelor or bachelorette party want to do and how many mutual friends you and FS have as BMs and GM. If your BMs and GM don't know all of the people on the other side, a combined bachelor/bachelorette party may be awkward.

We just let our friends plan what they were willing and able to do. For me, that meant my BMs planned a lingerie shower the month before the wedding and whisked me away the day before the wedding for bagels, an escape room, and a tea party as my bachelorette party. For DH, it meant his GM took him out drinking and dancing. Honestly, 3/4 of my ladies weren't drinking (one was breastfeeding and had a newborn accompanying us on our adventures, one was pregnant, and one has health issues and just doesn't drink), so a combined party probably wouldn't have lined up with what the guys had in mind. But if a combined party is what your BMs and GM are suggesting as a possibility, it could probably be a lot of fun.

We aren’t really doing traditional parties. The day before the wedding, my friends and I are hanging out at another friends house from 12-4ish and we will have a little pool party while assembling the reception decor. Then all wedding attendees are invited to join us on a night out in downtown Vegas Saturday night. We don’t feel any great need to do bachelor/bachelorette parties so this works for us, especially since it’s a destination wedding and we want to include everyone.

Honestly my FH doesn’t have a lot of guy friends. His closer guys friends are in other states, and most of his local friends are mutual friends with me since we all met around the same time. I might do something with my BFF/MOH since she lives far away, but we were actually just planning on having a night out with all of our mutual friends here!

No for us. FH didn’t want to do it bc he’s been looking forward to doing it the “traditional” way & wanted to have a good time w/ all of his guys together at once bc it would be a luxury for them.

We did this and it was great! We both had mixed gender parties, all our guests had to travel pretty far for the wedding and no one lived where we live so we had a joint party two nights before the wedding. Made the most sense. We had it at a restaurant/bar with a pool, had dinner, played some bride/groom trivia and swam. It was a really good time. Our friends who haven't met each other got to know each other a little, too.

We are doing it together. We have the same group of friends so it works great. We are going to karaoke and have a battle of the sexes contest to make it a fun night

We have the same group of friends, and it wouldn't make sense for us because some of his closest friends are girls. He'd be bummed if he couldn't hang out with them too. Plus I sent the guys on an all day beer tour and the girls got a spa day a few months ago. We are reserving the 2nd story of a popular restaurant/nightclub having a nice dinner, and then hitting the bars all night. We wanted to be able to include everyone for the celebration, so we are inviting all friends not just the wedding party. Each person will have something different that works better for them though, just do what sounds like the most fun!

We’re probably going to start the night out together and then split up. All of our friends are couples pretty much, so it’d be nice to spend time with all of them and then go out our separate ways.
We’re also coming from out of town, so it’ll be the first time in a while that we’ve all hung out together.

We honestly wanted to have a combined party but everyone was so against it, which was so annoying. So now we are doing separate day parties. I'm going to wine tastings and he is going shooting and to some bars. Lol idk, I still get a little mad that people were so against the idea. It's your decision. I have more fun with the guys and girls combined honestly. I love my girls, but a huge party would have been so fun.

I don't see anything wrong at all with combined but for me it would be a hard no. I love love love my girl time so NO BOYS ALLOWED!

Don't do it. his is what I learned from my experience as a bride and as a friend of a bride - Don't do combined unless you are also going to do something separate with your girls. It comes off a little needy or like you can't be without him. You don't have to do anything major. My best friends and I went and did a ropes course during the afternoon and then had dinner with a bunch of ladies that night. It was super chill but it was just some time without her other half. My other friend, we did dinner and went line dancing. For mine, we are going to do brunch and go for a hike. I think it is important to do something and spend some time without him and it sends and important message to all the ladies in your life.

We did a combined party. Neither one of us were looking to do anything too wild and we realized we had about 75% overlap in our guest lists. We ended up doing a river float and nice dinner. The girls threw me a small lingerie shower while the guys had drinks in the hotel bar, but other than that we did everything as a big group and had a fantastic time.