Cold Feet or End?

Simple. If you feel like you want to be free, do not get married. To get married is to be 100% certain you're making the right decision. If you're 99%, don't do it, and it sounds like you're not even close to that...

If you haven't sent invites, because you don't trust this wedding will actually happen, I think you answered your own question.

Just because you share a child doesn't mean you have to marry this man.

Oy well straight up telling him that you don't wanna marry him is for sure I big statement.

Honestly none of us can really answer what you should do. I'd personally look into seeing a therapist so you can work out your feelings. Good luck.

100% agree with @Boinkin ... you answered your own questions - you want to be free. Lot's of luck!

Have you talked to anyone in your real life about this? A therapist perhaps? The controlling/freaking out aspects are big red flags but as someone with little work experience and 2 young kids, walking away without having a proper plan in place is a big big step to take.

Walk away. If you're not 100% sure you want to get married then don't get married!

If you are feeling trapped in a relationship you will definitely be trapped in a marriage. I'd call it off or you can try to do counseling and if after counseling you still feel uncertain, I'd hold it off. You can still be together (or not) but just hold off on such a big commitment.

You said it yourself. OP you should be telling your fiance this. If you have any doubt in your mind then you need to express it and walk away. Don't walk into a wedding with doubt and the feeling of being trapped.

I am from the mindset that this is beyond cold feet. These are red flags for a potentially abusive relationship. Postpone if you're unsure- couples counseling if you want to stay together or walk away completely. Unfortunately, no one here is in the relationship and can't give you a solid, clear cut answer. Having children is not the reason to stay with someone when you aren't happy. Best of luck with whatever decision you choose

This is not cold feet. you want to be free to live your life as you see fit. Nothing wrong with that but it is time to put on the big girl pants and deal with that. The fact you didn't send out invites to the weeding says a lot about the decision you have already made but won't come to terms with

Do what you hope your children would do in your situation. Like PP have said, I think it says a lot that you haven't sent your invites out yet.

I'm sorry you're going through this

I think the fact that you yourself said you won't be able to see a change in that amount of time means at the very least you should postpone.

This doesn't sound like cold feet to me. It sounds as if you already know what you want. If you've talked to your fiancee about how you're feeling, I think you need to postpone the wedding and explore your options. Are you willing to try couples counseling? I may also recommend individual counseling to help you sort out your own feelings, wants and needs individual from the relationship. I wouldn't say just walk away yet, because this will disrupt your lives and your children's lives, but it sounds like it's time for a long hard look at the relationship.