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Courtney
VIP September 2014

Coffee Shop Bridal Shower?

Courtney, on February 27, 2014 at 11:45 AM Posted in Planning 2 9

What would you think if you were invited to a bridal shower at a coffee shop and then had to buy your own coffee?

My aunt is hosting a "traditional" shower for family, older women friends of parents etc. But, my MOH and a BM want to do something low key for our younger friends.

We've discussed having it at a locally owned coffee shop in my hometown where MOH still lives. The coffee shop told my MOH she could host the shower there, but can't rent out the whole space (so it won't be closed to other customers) and that she can't bring in outside food or drink. So, essentially guests would be buying a coffee and hanging out during regular business hours. She is worried (and honestly I am, too, though I'll be thankful for anything she plans) that guest might be a little turned off by the situation.

What do you think?

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Latest activity by Bethany, on January 25, 2025 at 12:11 PM
  • Courtney
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    Courtney ·
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    BTW - the shop is beautiful! It's in a restored historic home with a wrap-around porch with antique furniture and just a great, classy vibe. It has a large room with a big table, so space is not an issue - just the weirdness of other people coming in to buy drinks and friends having to buy their own refreshments.

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  • Shannon S.
    Master March 2011
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    I'm sure it's lovely, but I would be annoyed that I took a weekend afternoon and bought you a gift, only to have to buy my own coffee and pastry and not even have our own space to socialize. Plus, I imagine a gaggle of women oohing and aahing over toasters would be irritating to other patrons.

    Can't you do something simple in one of your homes?

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  • M
    Master May 2014
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    I don't know how the local shops do it, but Starbucks has coffee traveler for $12 each, serves 12 8-oz cups of coffee. Maybe the shop has something like that, or a few coffee presses that your MOH and BMs can host. Then if anyone wants a specialty drink they can buy their own, but at least a free option is available.

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  • LadyMonk
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    That sounds fun, but I would open up a tab and pay for people's coffee and probably have a plate of muffins, etc for my guests as well.

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  • Emily
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    I think the coffee shop idea is fine but guests should be provided with some food and coffee / other beverages. They shouldn't have to buy their own. The hosts really can't invite people to a shower, where people will bring gifts, and not host anything for them. It's lame. And pretty cheap.

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  • Courtney
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    Thanks for the suggestions everyone.

    I don't think my MOH isn't too keen on the idea of having to pay for people's drinks since she is a. . .budget-queen haha. But, maybe I could mention opening a tab (thanks for the idea @Amanda-Kiora) and offer to pay anything on the tab that is over her budget myself at the end.

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  • Emily
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    Why did your MOH offer to host a shower if she didn't want to spend any money on refreshments for guests? That is kind of a requirement to hosting a shower. Honesty she shouldn't be throwing it if she isn't willing to provide food or drinks.

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  • Shannon S.
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    Maybe I'm just a Miss Priss, but I think you host properly or not at all. Expecting guests to buy their own refreshments and have to scramble for seats in a busy coffeeshop isn't my idea of hosting.

    If your MOH isn't willing to host, then I'd just skip it.

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  • M
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    Yeah hosting = paying. If she doesn't want to, I would just decline a second shower. Bridal showers don't need to be catered to young people.

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