Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Laura
Savvy June 2017

Cocktail Hour. How long is too long?

Laura, on January 4, 2017 at 2:27 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 26

Hi Everyone! Looking for your opinions. We are having an outdoor wedding on a farm. Our ceremony will be in the late afternoon, 3:30 or 4:00. We are telling our guests not to dress formally...it will be more of a semi-casual dress recommendation. We want everyone to be comfortable being in the outdoors. We are planning a bunch of yard games for cocktail hour since we both have a lot of friends and family that love that sort of thing. My question is....do you think that extending cocktail hour to 1 1/2 hours is too much? There will obviously be food and cocktails, pop, and water available, as well as all of the games. The farm is also a large and very charming property with much to appreciate, and they will be free to explore if they wish.

The reason we want to extend to 1 1/2 hours is to give us enough time to take our pictures, and then have time to enjoy some socializing and games with the guests.

Any opinions? Will 1 1/2 hours be too much?

26 Comments

Latest activity by Dolores Umbridge, on January 4, 2017 at 6:43 PM
  • NewlyMrsLachney
    Master September 2017
    NewlyMrsLachney ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Personally? Yes. A cocktail hour is just that: an hour. Anything longer and your friends/fam are standing around going, 'wtf is going on? did someone die?'

    • Reply
  • Fitz
    Master August 2018
    Fitz ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I think that you really should try to keep it to an hour. 1.5 hours isn't bad, but not preferable.

    • Reply
  • Renee
    Expert January 2017
    Renee ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I totally agree. I would get quite antsy with just drinks for over an hour. Try to get most of your photos done early. Guests typically are not fond of waiting, even when it's totally understandable. Best wishes!

    • Reply
  • MNA
    Master April 2018
    MNA ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Cocktail hour should run for an hour. It's also rude to give guests a dress code unless you're having a black tie affair. You convey the formality via the reign and fonts used in the invitations.

    • Reply
  • ELK
    Master March 2018
    ELK ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    My friend had a 1 1/2 hour cocktail hour because of a slight gap between her ceremony and reception. I think it's fine as long as there is enough food and booze.

    • Reply
  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
    GymRat ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Cocktail hour is an hour. After that I'm looking at my watch ready to go into the reception to eat dinner. Where are you going that you need 90 minutes for photos?

    • Reply
  • MrsFH
    Super May 2017
    MrsFH ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I think 90 minutes is fine but that's as long as I'd go. And food is a must because hunger plus alcohol often equals people gettting drunk fast.

    • Reply
  • Anne
    Master April 2017
    Anne ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I think an hour and a half is completely fine as long as you have plenty of food and drinks.

    • Reply
  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I start to get antsy after 1 hour 15 min, but you can definitely stretch to 1 hour 30 min if you want to! Just make sure there's lots of food and booze Smiley smile

    • Reply
  • BoozyBaker
    Master January 2017
    BoozyBaker ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    If there's enough food that I wouldn't be trashed at the end of it, I'd be okay with it.

    • Reply
  • JJ
    Dedicated June 2018
    JJ ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I would extend the reception if possible before extending the cocktail hour. I too was planning on having a longer cocktail hour because of the size of my bridal party and needing more time for pics but I was recently in a wedding where the cocktail hour was 2.5 hours (unplanned, but still...), and my FH was texting me memes the entire time because he was drunk af and bored lol he said guests were asking a lot of questions and some even left... HOWEVER, I think 90 minutes is pretty safe, and you will be fine due to your venue and planned activities... some may not notice if they're playing lawn games and such.

    • Reply
  • MJ
    VIP April 2017
    MJ ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Should just be an hour. 1.5 hrs isn't terrible but that would be the max for me.

    • Reply
  • CJ
    VIP May 2018
    CJ ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    The last wedding I went to had a 2 hour cocktail hour. FSIL and I discovered we like cosmopolitans and had waaay too many, we were trashed before dinner. I'm not complaining lol, but you might have a lot of tipsy guests by the time the reception comes around.

    • Reply
  • Polly
    VIP May 2017
    Polly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Mine is going to be somewhere between 75-90 mins. I think you're find, especially since it's daytime. Just try not to go too much past 90 mins.

    • Reply
  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
    Erin Wood ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I think that's a little too long. Take care of all your pictures with family and your BP beforehand and have your FH do you same with his family and WP. All you'll have left after the ceremony is couples pictures and some group shots. A good photog can do it in an hour. In addition to your guests getting antsy do you really want to miss more of your celebration? I'll be rushing through pics hoping to catch the tail end of my cocktail hour.

    • Reply
  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Most cocktail hours here are an hour and a half, with LOTS of food.

    • Reply
  • Miami2NorthernVA
    Master November 2017
    Miami2NorthernVA ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I am fine with an hour and a half if there is plenty to drink and eat.

    • Reply
  • AshleyR
    Master January 2021
    AshleyR ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I think that's the maximum it can be while still being an acceptable amount of time.

    • Reply
  • Leah
    VIP July 2017
    Leah ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Ours is an hour and fifteen minutes because there is about a fifteen minute drive from ceremony to reception.

    • Reply
  • the Grooms
    Master May 2018
    the Grooms ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I'm fine with an hour and a half if there is plenty of apps Smiley smile, if you have a wedding website, that is a good place to put the dress code. You don't have to state the dress code is... but mention this is a semi casual event

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×


WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Learn more

Rockstars

  • D
    Getting married in 07/03/2025

Groups

WeddingWire article topics