Co-Ed Bachelor/Bachelorette Party

I understand why you wouldn't want to go and wouldn't blame you if you didn't. However I would also consider putting your feelings to the side and supporting what she wants. Even if you don't agree. It's kinda a double whammy seeing that you are not only her MOH but you are also her sister.

I don't blame you for not wanting to go. She shouldn't be making these plans anyway.

Have you considered getting a hotel room somewhere in the area and staying? Your boyfriend can come along and you two can have a mini getaway, and you can still attend planned events solo.

I wouldn't go.

First of all, the ridiculous weekend long, expensive ass blow out bach parties are SO over done and stupid. I will never understand why they've become "the norm."

Second of all, by saying she doesn't care about your feelings...fuck that. Have fun on your weekend without me. You don't care about how I feel? Good to know. You not caring will be reflected in your wedding gift.

I wouldn't go as far as calling them stupid my MOH is throwing a weekend getaway for my Bachelorette and we all couldn't be more excited ...anyway with that why is she throwing it in the first place?? Just tell her you cant go. Is she paying for everyone? She won't be pissed forever ..tell her no and stick to it if you are really against it . She cant expect to force you to pay and go on a mini vacation that you dont want to go on

I think it would be weird for you BF to go considering its a bachelorette party and presumably he is not invited to the bachelor party and is not close with the groom.

That being said, I would not go for financial reasons. My FH was invited to a bachelor party in Nashville and did not go. We save up to take two vacations a year, one to our hometown to see our family and one "fun" vacation. Spending money on the bachelor party trip would have meant we didn't have money for our trips as a couple. And personally I hate the destination bachelor/ bachelorette party thing. Don't ask me to spend $1,000 or more on a party.

My fiancé just got invited to a coed party aswell its her bestfriends and she’s a bridesmaid however their saying no spouses invited . Her bestfriend is her exes sister whom she has had sex with before also. I think if she goes it’s a deal breaker for me it’s too much