Clink Clink - Cut the Crap!

I’ve always seen it that when someone clinks their glass, the bride and groom kiss, never that they have to stand up

Plastic glasses?

I have never seen someone having to stand up. Don't they usually just kiss? Not really sure how to avoid it other than the firs time someone does it I would just not kiss and people may get the hint... or bang on their glasses more!

I've never heard of that. When people clink their glasses, the newlyweds are supposed to kiss, not stand up....

I haven't even heard of clinking glasses period at any wedding i've been to. interesting. Usually when i do hear it, its someone getting the attention of the crowd to make a speech.

I've never liked the glasses clinking however I don't mind the kisses. My FH and I are nerds and we've incorporated it into a game. Instead of clinking, if someone wants us to kiss, they have to come roll a 20 sided die. If it lands on 1-9, the roller has to kiss someone. If it lands on 11-19, then the Bride and Groom kiss. If it lands on 20, ALL couples have to kiss. I doubt many people will actually join in on this. But oh well.

I've seen the couple stand up and kiss, but not stand up for no reason. I've seen at wedding the DJ tell the guests not to do that and came up with an alternative for the guests. If you have a DJ you can ask him for ideas.

Around here, the couple stands. Is it completely and utterly rude to make an announcement? Haha - we've already lightly discussed in general our opinion on it with a few family members. Running joke is that anyone who clinks will be escorted out. I was just at my cousin's wedding and it was insane. They would literally sit for 4 seconds and someone would be clinking again. I wanna watch people making out I can watch HBO or something.... LOL

I'm with you! I hate the glass clinking. It turns an otherwise formal dinner into a frat party.

The only way I have found around it is for the MC or DJ to announce an alternative you have chosen.

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I wish...we get all of our glassware and such with the venue. So if I want plastic I have to purchase sadly. I've even seen guests bang on something else or chant KISS KISS if there is plastic cups.

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Agreed! Often times the cheers and jeers get rowdier as the dinner progresses and the booze starts to take effect. It just doesn't sit well with me. I'm a low PDA personality. Plus I want to enjoy my dinner and speaking with my guests. Is it rude to make that announcement? Maybe I don't care if it is rude if it means I get to feel comfortable instead of awkward?

Lean over and have a quick boring pack the first time, then ignore it after that. People will get bored trying to get you to kiss, and the obnoxious ones who persist will likely be told to knock it off by their table mates

Peck, not pack! Good grief autocorrect

I saw one alternative where the couple had the DJ announce that anyone who wanted the couple to kiss had to bring their partner up to the front and demonstrate how they'd like the couple to kiss. I saw some cute ones where a grandpa and his granddaughter came up and she gave him a peck on the cheek. It could limit the frequency of the "kiss" demands if someone has to come up and put themselves on the line. Or it could make it worse. It depends on your crowd really.

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Haha dang devices think they know what we are thinking... I ducking hate that!

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Literally have never witnessed people getting rowdy during dinner while clinking glasses, or an overuse of glass clinking. I feel like you're way overthinking this.

I’m surprised so many people haven’t heard of this, regional perhaps? For awhile it was really common to announce an alternate. Like “clinking glasses won’t get us to kiss, instead xx will.” I think every bride and groom was sick of glass clinking! Like at one they said people had to come up to the front to the microphone and song part of a song with the word love in it. A few people did it and it was funny but then most people don’t bother amd so they ate mostly in peace and you don’t have the physical clinking. Another couple did a thing where if you donated to a charity (they had a bowl at the head table) they’d do it. One you had to blow bubbles (everyone had a little bottle) but usually the bride and groom didn’t even notice so that turned out to be a good one for them lol! I always looked forward to seeing what alternative they’d have at each wedding I’d go to. I haven’t seen any alternate kiss signals (or whatever you’d call them) in quite a few years, I think it must’ve been trendy for a period of time and then forgotten about.

View Quoted Comment Yep this was another one I forgot about! I did see people get up and stand on their chairs and kiss once though lol

My FH and I are not into PDA at all. Obviously, we will be showing more, as it will be our wedding day, but I will death stare the crap out of anyone who tries to push the glass clinking. Or, to be polite, just ignore it lol. Hopefully everyone will get it, but we do have some older guests who think that stuff is still cute.

Just don't do it - my FH has the same gripe, and as I've seen in the past, if the bride and groom just ignore it, eventually, those clinking the glasses get a little embarrassed and stop. I told my FH that's what we'll do if our families do that to us, but I'm hoping we'll get lucky and they'll forget.