Choosing Bridesmaids

Why do you need 2-3 more girls? Sides don’t need to be even. It’s better to only have the people close to you rather than asking someone just so it looks a certain way in pictures.

You don’t need to have even sides. If you have friends that are guys, you can include them on your side as well.

View Quoted Comment That is very true . I guess in my own way , I want to make sure that I’m not over looking someone that I should include or may want to be . I have a couple people in mind , but I also deal with fear of rejection . Such as what if I feel like they should be in my bridal party but they don’t ? It’s silly I know 😕

I do also feel like his family would believe to be apart of the bridal party , like he’s been apart of some of theirs . I’m just not close to his family really .... I feel like this whole thing is a mess 😂

You're overthinking this. Ask people you feel close to and can't imagine your day without. If that's only 2 people, that's fine.

View Quoted Comment Only ask people who you can’t imagine not having next to you on your day! Not people that you think you should ask or feel obligated to.

Your bridal party should definitely just be the people closest to you, regardless of numbers. If you ask people solely to have an even look, chances are good you'll regret it.

Who do you call when you're having a bad day? Who do you vent about day to day life with? Who do you go to lunch/dinner with most often? Who calls you out of the blue because they just want to talk? Your car just broke down - who do you call to give you a ride? I wouldn't even ask anyone until more like 7-8 months away personally because so many people regret asking their bridal party early. If you only can think of two girls, so be it.

Hmmm why do you need a certain amount?

View Quoted Comment This is a very good way to put it !!! I’ve been trying to mend relationships that I lost a long time ago . My previous relationship I was in , it was abusive and I lost a lot of people that way . I am trying to right all of my wrongs , basically . And I feel like those people who use to be apart of my life , use to be all of those things for me

I've seen many people regret inviting too many bridesmaids--especially if they do it to rekindle lost relationships. I've never seen one regret inviting too few. I would stick with the ones who are really critical to you.

So, my fiancé has three best friends and asked them to be his groomsmen. I, on the other hand, don't have a lot of family and ZERO girlfriends. I asked my sister to be my MOH and my cousin to be a bridesmaid. I asked the Best Man's girlfriend to be a bridesmaid since we spend holidays with them and hang out a lot, but she's a total diva and I'm coming to regret that decision. I was trying to make the sides even, but then I decided I wanted my male cousin by my side. There are no rules anymore! So I am having three bridesmaids and a fourth bridesman and my fiancé is having three groomsmen. There are so many different ways to process down the aisle now, you don't need to have couples. Even consider asking men to be in your party! Hope this is helpful

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Hi Lindsey Have you thought more about who you will ask to be bridesmaids? Did you decide who to ask?

View Quoted Comment I have put some thought into it . I just am still up in the air about it . I know we have a little over a year until our wedding date so I’m thinking I’m going to take a little bit until I come to a final decision . Like a lot of ladies have said , some they’ve regretted asking to be apart of the wedding because their relationship has changed . I think I just need to take more time to be sure .