Choosing Bridesmaids without close friends or family? Help!

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You don't have to have any more bridesmaids at all, actually -- this close to the wedding, a request could be seen as desparate, and will they have enough time to get dresses?

Also, you don't have that have girls up there with you. Do you have brothers/male cousins you are close to? Why not have a bridesman up there with you?

Why not just have your friend? It doesn't have to be the same amount on each side. Personally, I wouldn't ask the wives unless you are close with them. If I was just an acquaintance with someone and she asked me to be a BM I wouldn't want to do it. It takes a lot of money to be a BM. I wouldn't want to ask that of an acquaintance (unless you are paying for it).

Yeah I know how you feel. I don't have a lot of friends and he does. So i have my 2 close friends as my MOHs and the other BMs are the wifes of the groomsmen. I have met them a few times and they are really nice and happy to be in it And we have a big wedding party.

My future hubs was a fraternity brother so he has a ton of friends. Me...not so much. I like to keep in contact with one few that I truly adore. So we are having a mismatched number in our bridal party. He's getting all his boys and I am getting only the people I truly want in my bridal party. I wasn't sure how this would look at first but then I thought about looking at pics on down the road and decided I'd much rather have the pics of the most important day of our lives include only the people that are close to me than some acquaintances. We are having our party walk down the aisle and sit during the ceremony in the front row so it doesn't look off.

It's your special day. If you want only your friend in your bridal party than only have her. There is nothing wrong with that. If your hubs wants 3 then let him have 3. Nobody said you have to do everything by the book.

Good Luck!!

You have whoever you want, but i'd suggest for sentimental reasons just have your friend, she doesnt have to take a lot of time ... and then during the ceremony you can just have moh and bm standing up

I agree with everyone, you don't have to pick people just to even the sides. Uneven WPs are more common than ya think. At least you'll be less likely to have any bridesmaid drama with only one!

There is a good chance that the best friend, who would be MOH, won't be able to attend due to her lack of time off left for the year (she's about 8 hours away..something I should have mentioned).

I wouldn't mind being mismatched at all, but I don't know if I'd feel comfortable having no one at all if he's got a lot (not that it's a popularity contest, I just have such a cute look going, and there's the whole "holding the bouquet" and just little things like that, that add up).

The wives are extremely nice and we DO get along well, I would consider them more friends than acquaintances I guess, we're just not BEST FRIENDS so-to-speak. 2 have been around since the Fiance and I got together and 1 has just recently come into the "circle" and married the Best Man.

CONTINUED.....

I should have mentioned too, that all of the costs for the wedding are being taken care of by us and no one will be paying for anything on our BM or GM side whatsoever. I do agree that it would be a little rude to ask someone so close to the wedding and especially not so close to me, to pay for something for MY big day..no way! On top of that, I had always intended to cover my girls' costs, because I'm picky and I wouldn't want to cause a rift between anyone because I'm asking them to spend their money on something strictly for me! I'm so thrifty (I'm eBay-ing the majority of my wedding) it's not going to tack on a lot of "extra" to cover the costs and it safes a lot of headache all around. And while I'm picky, I'm trying to be really considerate of everyone's personal style and comfort so no one will feel like they're "dealing with Bridezilla" if they commit. My vision is to do BMs in ivory lace in styles that make them feel comfortable and tie it together with matching acc and shoes

I totally hear you. FH has 6 friends that "HAD" to be our GM (he feels guilty because he was in all of their weddings too). I have only 3 that I wanted to be my BM. At first, FH suggested that I have his brother's spouses be BMs, although we are on good terms, I did not feel like I know them well enough to ask them to be BM. So, we have 6 GM and 3BM.

Honestly, I would just ask your friend. She may decline, but at least she knows that you would love to have her as a BM.

Is your friend not coming to your wedding?cause that blows. if she's able to be a guest she's able to sign your liscence and be in your pics.

You can always ask the "we friends" to go dress shopping with you etc and have an aunt throw you a bridal shower.

why not ask FH to only have one guy?

Yeah I definitely know how you feel....I have so many acquaintances - I had only started off with my sister and my BFF who are my matron/maid of honor after that I had no idea who to ask....I do have other friends that I'm always hanging with but we don't hang out together only when my BFF is around that is about it....At first I wasn't caring about the mismatched sides but FH definitely cared about it so I catered to him and asked 3 other girls who I'm not super close but I was really close to at one point in my life. I don't see nothing wrong with asking the wives to be apart of the wedding - it's your choice!

Personally I'd want someone I was close to at my side that day. If it doesn't bother you to have the wives there I say go for it. The only reason I'd see them saying no is because they wouldn't want to pay but you're taking care of that too.

It depends on how you feel.