Hi everyone! I just got engaged last week and this is my first time posting so bear with me!
Originally, I only wanted 3 BMs with 1 MOH, but now I think I need to up the count to 5 total because I simply cannot eliminate so many options. I'll give you a rundown and maybe you can help me narrow it down.
I knew my MOH right away, as well as one of my good friends in college and one cousin would be BMs. So this means I have 2 spots left to fill but 3 girls as possible BMs.
Contestants:C, K, and A
C was my best friend in high school and we stayed good friends until the end of jr year of college. (For reference, I have been graduated from college for one year). We haven't talked a ton recently but she was there to take the proposal pictures and has been a great friend when we were close. She will have a 9 month old baby at time of wedding so I'm not sure if it would be too difficult for her anyway. Also, I'm not sure of her financial situation and I really hate to be that bride, but I cannot afford to buy everyone's dresses and shoes.
K is my cousin and therefore my oldest friend. We have had some rough patches but we are family and I love her. She was engaged and didnt ask me to be in the party but I'm not sure how much planning she did so it's up in the air. She is a lot of fun and definitely a great hype man but she is not as weird as the rest of us and I don't want her to feel she doesn't fit in. We don't hang out often but when we do, we have a lot of fun!
A is unique and difficult. My fiance's best friend just got engaged to A last month. She is a super sweet girl and we will probably become great friends in the future due to our fiances' relationship. This is all great and wonderful except we have hung out as a group probably 4 times and I've never spent time alone with her. Despite this, she asked me to be one of her BMs so I feel obligated to do the same. We have a lot in common but this friendship is so new I'm not sure what to think- I've only known her for 2 or 3 months. She's nice and she asked me but it still seems too new a friendship for something this important. I dont want to hurt her feelings or make her feel I dont have similar affections for her as she does me.
So I have 3 great girls here but I'm not sure who to include. I really don't want to bump the count to 6 because it just seems like too many for my style and type of wedding.
Any advice on how to narrow this down? Thank you in advance!