Choosing a date

My husband chose ours and it was really only because it worked best for his schedule

Obviously it depends on where you live, but early September is far from fall weather in many areas of the country. We chose our date because it was the only fall Saturday that our venue had available.

We chose ours because 1. it was on a Thursday and we were trying to go for a weekday wedding to save money and 2. It will be exactly 10 years to the day from our first date! We didn’t initially plan on having that date but when we realized that that date fell on a Thursday we were so excited and we were like oh my God everything happens for a reason! LOL

My fiance is a teacher and he gets limited time off during the school year, so our date had to be in the summer. We also knew we wanted a Friday wedding. Our birthdays (both in the summer) are 8 days apart, so we picked our original wedding date to be halfway between our birthdays, and it happened to fall on a Friday in 2020! However, due to COVID, we were forced to reschedule, and we weren't going to be able to get our original date in the next year or two. So we picked a date that was close enough and still on a Friday!

View Quoted Comment How cool! Both of our birthdays is in July 10 days apart also. We decided on an eloping because all of our family is so far away and some doesn’t approve of gay marriage. So we were thinking elope in June to represent pride month and have our reception with family and friends in July near our birthdays. I’m all over the place

View Quoted Comment We wanted a weekday wedding as well. We decided to elope though to avoid family problems and just have a reception. But I’m not sure if I want summer or early fall for our reception.

View Quoted Comment I really like your idea!! Best of both worlds - your wedding during pride month and your reception around your birthdays! It will definitely be a summer-long celebration for you for sure! Congratulations!

Honestly it was a Sunday avail in the fall. I was thinking October and the fh said November 8th is good when the owner of the venue mentioned that being one of the options ha ha ha.

View Quoted Comment I live in Texas it’s usually still really hot in early September. I’m leaning toward a summer wedding/reception but 100+ weather really makes me reconsider lol. We’re kind of open on date at least right now. We decided to elope with just parents in June during pride month and then have a reception with all our family who’s out of town. Both of our birthdays in July so I was considering our reception can also be our birthday celebration as well.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Congratulations to you as well!!

My brother, my brother-in-law, and my sister were all engaged at the same time as us. We were all planning on getting married in 2019 so that made choosing a date more difficult because we didn't want any of the four weddings to be too close. My brother got married in April and my brother-in-law got married in August. I had wanted to get married in October, but my sister was supposed to be so we decided to have a summer wedding. We booked our wedding for July 20, but after we already had our venue, DJ and photographer booked my sister canceled her wedding. If we hadn't already booked those vendors, we would have had an October wedding.

We chose our date based on what season we liked most.
We both love winter because the snow is beautiful and we hate being too hot at weddings in the summer.
We then thought when would be the best month based on where we live. November would be too early because it normally snows hard right around thanksgiving and before that there would barely be any snow. January, February and March would be too cold and too high a chance of big snowstorms.That left us with December where there is a light chance of snow but no too much, and we wanted to be as far away from Christmas as possible since all our guests are traveling and prices for flights + hotels are so expensive around Christmas. Then we chose our date based on what the venue still had available.

View Quoted Comment We both love autumn right when the leaves change!! That’s kind of why sept was the first choice but I changed my mind after we decided to not have a actually wedding. But we are very big in the lgbtqa+ community so I figured maybe we could incorporate out wedding during pride month especially since we’re just doing an intimate elopement.

View Quoted Comment That’s a lot of weddings in one year lol. We haven’t booked anything yet because I’m such a diy’er. But since we’re eloping I feel like I don’t have anything concrete yet and feel so all over the place.

That is technically not fall and usually still very hot, at least here in the northeast. If you want fall, you would need to wait until the leaves start to change.

We chose 10/10/20 for a number of reasons. We knew we basically had 4 weekends to choose from if we wanted to include my FH's son (10). We did not want a summer wedding as his 1st was in the summer. Both of us were against the spring and our initial plans were to get married in Maine (we've since switched to FL). That left of with 2 weekends and we thought 10/10 was perfect, his son is 10, he was born 20'10' and 10+10=20 - Plus it was a sure win with his son's football schedule and it falls exactly 6 days shy of our 5 year "meeting" anniversary.

We have two dates picked out in case one doesn't work with a venue we really like but we talked about narrowing down what season we wanted to have our wedding in and what we thought would be a slower time for his work schedule. For myself fall was always a time I wanted to get married and it just happened to be a good time season for him as well. Then we talked about which day of the week would be best for both parties. We concluded that Saturday's are the only days that work best for us. After that I pulled up a calendar and listed off two Saturdays per Fall month that I thought would be a good and easy date to remember and asked him to choose one. We had quite a few potential dates and then narrowed it down by process of elimination of what we thought about the dates. Eventually we came up with two separate dates that we both liked and now it is just finding a venue that we like and if one isn't available we will go with the other.

I had my heart set in an October wedding. So we looked at venues with available Saturdays in October. Once we fell in love with our venue, we took the last remaining Saturday they had.

View Quoted Comment I live in Texas I possibly should’ve said autumn. I usually like the season right between summer and fall when the colors start to change and that usually the middle of September but we didn’t want to share the same wedding anniversary as my parents. We wanted our own day. But I think we might decide to change it to a summer wedding.

View Quoted Comment That’s smart!